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Originally posted by hiram i dont really have anything to lose

Err...what about the relationship?

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you dont know what it could be if u never try

Excellent attitude.

you do have a lot to lose actually, but life is all about risks..usually high risk = high reward. And yes, wondering what if is the worst thing there is.

My gf currently living bout 20 miles alway from me..and i'm complaining.

I mean..the gas it takes to send her home and back to my place is REDICULASE.



Yes..go ahead..call me a cheap bastard..

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Originally posted by Danny Ocean usually high risk = high reward.

Except in the case of long-distance relatonships where the reward is the same as in short-distance ones.

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Iv just come out of a 6 year relationship with an english girl. We actually met in a game. But then in MSN.. and we shared cam and developed a relationship that way. After 6 years of growing up to legally be able to move away i took off @ 16 yrs old. Travelled to Manchester and met up with her. Spent the next year with her (6 months there, followed by 6 months here in AUS). The time was great, the places i got to see, the sex.. everything was good. Over there its legal to get engaged @ 16 with parental consent so we did.

I met alot of long term friends, walked huge beaches i would love to go back to and dj on one day, and i met people who liked dance music. It was great..

I have actually split up with her just a few months ago and met someone new. Yes, part of the reason was stress from distance
(when you have had something, its alot harder to be without it for a while)

But the main reason for the stress was the 6 grand i had to have in my account to prove 'i can support myself'. And i didnt feel like i was being treated like a loved one anymore.

Long Term relationships are NOT impossible. Keeping one up via Webcam and mic is a pretty tough job. But it all comes down to how much effort you guys both put into it. I wouldnt change anything about mine. I got to do alot of things most 16 yr olders dont get to do.

Its a cool experience and in my opinion distance DOES make the heart grow fonder. And everyone should at least try flying international once in there life.

I'm hoping this experience teaches you something, It sure did for me.

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Originally posted by DarkAngel Requires extreme amounts of patience, dedication and other attributes of that class. Good luck.

+2.

It fucking sucks.

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yea it does. But what it all comes down to is how willing you both are. If you can both stay dedicated and keep your focus on what you want.. Its all sweet.

I wouldn't do it. I live about 25km (~15 miles) from my girlfriend, and that's long enough for me. But it's up to you two.

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pretty easy if neither one of you are skanks.

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Originally posted by MeLLyMeL Yes. Proof Plus there's no one that compares to him so why wouldn't it work

your bf is emo

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i just got outa one, they dont work to well, you never get to see them and one person will be putting all the effort in usually. you never know if they are cheating on you or not (i still dont know) and not being to be around them can cause a lot of trust and jelousy issues (my man got pissed when i was hanging out w/ my gf's because it wasnt him)

long distance will work out for awhile, but it can be really tough

i think the best way to go about a long distance relationship is to have a plan worked out as to when it can stop being a long distance relationship. Having a plan worked out - With a date as to when things will happen + and having logical resources (eg: enough money and knowledge to make sure it can happen)

If you can sort that out, you will cut alot of the stress because both of you will see that things WILL happen and it isint just time being wasted on 'could happens'