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| quote: | Originally posted by psiico111
Here's why: my parents divorced when I was 2 and I was raised by my dad until I turned 16 then I moved in with my mother. My dad pretended to be this upstanding citizen who never did anything wrong whereas my mother was always open and honest about things. To this day I see my dad as a joke and my mother as someone to respect. |
Why would you see your dad as a joke? He did his best to raise you with good morals by setting a positive example. People always expect a lot out of their parents, but never once seriously sit down and realize that they are individual human beings with unique emotions and motivations, just as the kids who are constantly judging them. It takes a lot to raise a kid, especially from the age of 2 to 16, and you take HIM for a joke?
Anyone see the implications here.....???
As for me, I voted for the last option, but I find the poll kinda inapplicable. I'd never introduce my kids to the scene, nor would I introduce it to drugs. When I do have kids, I play to speak to them constantly, not lecture, but on even terms, honestly, about everything they ask. But some things I myself will not expose them to, I will merely inform, from my own experiences, including both good and bad.
As for those adamantly claiming to not have kids because of the world and everything in it, I'm afraid I can't agree to those motivations. Maybe we're too childish and don't have the time, but to claim the WORLD as responsible for children, I find a stupid argument. The world can't change THAT much in the forseeable future, and I'm sure that we all enjoy our existence, such as it is. Why not share that life, and educate. The most active role anyone will play in a childs life is the parent. All they have to do is just WANT to be a part of the childs life.
On that note, kids and parents having close relationships is very cool. But sometimes, like samhouse, IMO it can be too close. It can be argued that you've had a parental security blanket over you your whole life. I'm sure you'll disagree, but consider that one large part of growing up is the strength of character to deal with certain discoveries on one's own.
And as for all of us waiting to have kids (which group I myself am a part of) consider that our parents probably had us at a much younger age, yet how many would not want to be around now? Says something about our own strengths of character that we've become so self-centered in just one generation.
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I couldnt care less if my bro does something stupid or not. More power to him to do as he pleases.
