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Slylee
love lockdown
Registered: May 2001
Location: Hollywood, FL
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Re: Jealousy....
| quote: | Originally posted by Theresa
So... I have never been the jealous type. I always figure, "meh, he's coming home with me later. Some floosie trying to hit on my boy wont change that".
I still think this, but for some reason, with my new boy, I find myself getting these minor, but still existing, bouts of jealousy. I never act on it, or say/do anything, but I still feel this irritation.
Saturday night my boy and I went to the bar to meet up with some friends. Some girl came up to my boy, hugged him, and proceeded to chat to him. I was out of earshot.
I could tell this girl was into him, and I didn't know who she was, so I decided to come over and introduce myself. Anyway, I could tell she didn't like me *the girlfriend snub*, and I could tell she was all about my guy. It REALLY pissed me off. I wanted to tell the little bitch to fuck off.
The weird part is, like I said, I have never been the jealous type, and my boy wasn't responding well to her or anything. In fact, he was very reassuring *put his hand on me when talking to her*.
He told me later that they used to work together, and she was always trying to get with him. I could sense that.
Anyway... I am wondering if you other ladies are like this? I have NEVER experienced this protective/jealous feeling before, so I don't know whether I should let it bother me, or if it's a normal thing to get aggravated. |
Ok I just read this.
I don’t really think that it’s jealousy you are experiencing, but rather your intolerance to being disrespected by that girl. I think these 2 emotions/feelings are very easily confused and misinterpreted. You said that your boy wasn’t very responsive to her and he even made it a point to make some sort of physical contact with you in front of her, which I think is really cool. It shows that he’s sensitive to your feelings and very aware of the situation.
Jealousy stems from insecurity, and you seem to be pretty secure with your boy and yourself, but you may just be really big on respect. That’s pretty much how I am, but I’ve had to learn to just deal with this over the years because there are a lot of fucked up chicks and guys out there who literally get off on doing this. You just have to rise above it and realize how pathetic they are that they need to engage in that sort of behavior to feel good about themselves. Just put on a big smile and kill her with kindness and act oblivious to her flirting.
If anything, you should encourage it. That’ll throw her off.
Like when she mentions a favorite movie or offers some sort of opinion on something, you should look at your boy and be like, “Hey, that's your favorite movie too, isn't it?”
Beat her at her own game.
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My soliloquy may be hard for some to swallow, but so is cod liver oil.
| quote: | Originally posted by notelfreak
man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone |
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RandomGirl
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Jul 2003
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Re: Re: Jealousy....
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
Ok I just read this.
I don’t really think that it’s jealousy you are experiencing, but rather your intolerance to being disrespected by that girl. I think these 2 emotions/feelings are very easily confused and misinterpreted. You said that your boy wasn’t very responsive to her and he even made it a point to make some sort of physical contact with you in front of her, which I think is really cool. It shows that he’s sensitive to your feelings and very aware of the situation.
Jealousy stems from insecurity, and you seem to be pretty secure with your boy and yourself, but you may just be really big on respect. That’s pretty much how I am, but I’ve had to learn to just deal with this over the years because there are a lot of fucked up chicks and guys out there who literally get off on doing this. You just have to rise above it and realize how pathetic they are that they need to engage in that sort of behavior to feel good about themselves. Just put on a big smile and kill her with kindness and act oblivious to her flirting.
If anything, you should encourage it. That’ll throw her off.
Like when she mentions a favorite movie or offers some sort of opinion on something, you should look at your boy and be like, “Hey, that's your favorite movie too, isn't it?”
Beat her at her own game. |
You know, I think you're right.
I was talking to a girlfriend about it, and she pointed out that I really didn't like one of HER friends because she did something very similar to me (dismissed me and deliberately tried to ostrocize me from the group).
Again, like I said earlier... jealousy would suggest that I felt threatened by her; like I was concerned she may be competition. That wasn't really the case. I was more aggravated that she was just being a cocky bitch getting into my space.
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Apr-24-2007 23:41
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