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Originally posted by Theresa I don't think it is really intentional for a lot of people. I mean, you socially drink right? Well when I broke up with my ex, I would go out with friends, and they would encourage the drinking, and then once I started to feel a little better, I drank more. It very easily, and quickly can become exessive. You don't conciously think about it, but psychologically we are inclined to continue doing something if it gives us some relief from the sorrow. I never thought to myself "I should get tanked to drown my sorrows". It was more like... I already did a lot of partying back then in the first place, so it seemed normal to me, but it quickly became an outlet to relieving the "pain".

this is EXACTLY it. i remember when i was doing it at the beginning of the year! fuck...i was so plastered! for a full 2 weeks i was drinking EVERY day. and on the weekends i was drinking LOTS. at least half a bottle of vodka (and the bottles were always around $35) on sat and sun. id drink about a bottle during the week.

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Originally posted by Xenocreator_PG_ Bugger being normal, How boring!! How can you be an individual if you follow everyone else around like a conformist sheep. Chaos is alot more interesting than anal sausages on a stick!

I'm not the sheep here, it seems like I'm on my own. You're the sheeeeep!

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Originally posted by Frenchie I socially drink to have fun, not to make my probs go away. but they way the usage of it was being used in this thread was not to just have fun.... I was just asking, no need to jump on my back .

idk for me it was just that I increased my social drinking exponentially. I wasn't sitting at home crying on a bottle of liquor in the corner. I just started going out waaaaay more than I normally would, and going at it harder than I did usually. It was more like taking the easily enjoyable to an absurd level.

edit: it was over a summer, too, which meant there was something to do almost every night.

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Originally posted by RJT You're mistaking chemical dependence for freely choosing to blur your misery with the aid of fun chemicals. There's a world of difference there.

yeah it's not like OMG I need this cocaine/alcohol. more like "well fuck it i'm not thinking about her"

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Originally posted by Frenchie I'm not the sheep here, it seems like I'm on my own. You're the sheeeeep!

I prefer the term "goat" thanks.

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Originally posted by inconspicuous idk for me it was just that I increased my social drinking exponentially. I wasn't sitting at home crying on a bottle of liquor in the corner. I just started going out waaaaay more than I normally would, and going at it harder than I did usually. It was more like taking the easily enjoyable to an absurd level.

That is exactly what I was saying.

You don't intentionally do it...

I was partying a lot in the first place when the break up happened. I just started doing it more often afterward.

You're alone, sad, feeling sorry for yourself, so every chance you get, you go out to have "fun" to be distracted etc. Friends are more likely to call you out because now you aren't with your S.O. and they know you feel like shit, so more opportunities arise. Then it just happens to turn into a big drinking binge.

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Originally posted by Aristronica it's only happened twice. once after freshman year in college and once this past summer. ... and frankly those were my only two "serious" relationships lesson is - denys shouldn't get into serious relationships cuz he's too arrogant to treat a bitch right.

and why is that? whats wrong with serious relationships?

i believe they call it "drowning your sorrow" except in my case i was doing a bit of smoking and snorting it away too.

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Originally posted by Aristronica i believe they call it "drowning your sorrow" except in my case i was doing a bit of smoking and snorting it away too.

we all deal with it in our own ways. unfortunately most of the time the way us guys do that its very unhealthy. we normally use lots of drugs and or drink a ton.

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel and why is that? whats wrong with serious relationships?

nothing at all. in fact they were quite enjoyable. i'm just arrogant and don't know how to treat a lady right. they fall in love with me and take a long ass time to realize their mistake. i'm a great guy but that doesn't mean i'm a good boyfriend.

whatever works for you, keep doing it.

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Originally posted by Aristronica nothing at all. in fact they were quite enjoyable. i'm just arrogant and don't know how to treat a lady right. they fall in love with me and take a long ass time to realize their mistake. i'm a great guy but that doesn't mean i'm a good boyfriend.

lol good reason. at least you know your an asshole bf.