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Originally posted by Jackson yeah i dont let things go easily... got any tips?

alcohol

this may help or make that worse, though

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Originally posted by Jackson yeah i dont let things go easily... got any tips?

if its something you cant change..just remind yourself that. if its someone's opinion that bothers you then remind yourself that we are all individuals. we can agree to disagree and that everyone has their own views. they may or may not align with yours but learn to respect them for having their own opinion. something i have come to use a lot in the past year or so (as im still working on letting things go..its a long long process) is "to each their own". its a way to remind myself and also diffuse the situation that i may have created that i cant change people. i can incite change but i wont actually change people. they have to want the change.

also do a lot of introspection. what are the things that have made you the way you are. this helps me a lot but isnt for everyone. figure out what really gets you going. then evaluate if its something that you yourself can change or if its something that is more out of your hands than anything. if it is out of your hands then learn to let it go.

worrying too much sucks. i find myself overthinking stuff sometimes but i've pretty much trained myself to brush things off and say "it is what it is". i think you have to learn to be more accepting of things out of our control in order to overcome that.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Slylee worrying too much sucks. i find myself overthinking stuff sometimes but i've pretty much trained myself to brush things off and say "it is what it is". i think you have to learn to be more accepting of things out of our control in order to overcome that.

Thats exactly what i need....i just need a technique on how to do it.

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Originally posted by Jackson Thats exactly what i need....i just need a technique on how to do it.

It's called behavioral-cognitive restructuring. If it's really something you need serious help with, go see a therapist.

i don't really know what to tell you other than this is something you can control in your own mind. all i can say is "you just do it". lol

i guess just taking deep breaths when you're stressed and focusing your attention on something else helps, but i mean what exactly do you worry about a lot?

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

Around 4-5 years ago I used to worry and stress out a lot over the smallest of things. Over time, I'd developed a number of different ways of letting go.

One that i found extremely helpful was to try and separate things that truly matter and things that don't on a day-to-day basis. As soon as you attach importance to something, you become emotionally involved with it and it therefore means more to you when something goes wrong with said thing.

By learning to detach yourself from the emotional aspect, you allow it to fly over your head and get on with the next thing in your day, removing the stress-factor.

The key is to not attach so much importance to everything you do.

Another one is to find a number of different hobbies/activities/interests. If something caused you to stress, then you can seek comfort in the many activities you've taken up, which will allow you to chill.

Try and stay calm at all times, which is easier said than done, but this can be done through breathing exercises and not attaching that 'importance'.

Of course you have to find a healthy balance. If you detach yourself from everything, then it can result in anti-social behaviour which can have other consequences.

Good Luck.

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Originally posted by DJ_Eternal Around 4-5 years ago I used to worry and stress out a lot over the smallest of things. Over time, I'd developed a number of different ways of letting go. One that i found extremely helpful was to try and separate things that truly matter and things that don't on a day-to-day basis. As soon as you attach importance to something, you become emotionally involved with it and it therefore means more to you when something goes wrong with said thing. By learning to detach yourself from the emotional aspect, you allow it to fly over your head and get on with the next thing in your day, removing the stress-factor. The key is to not attach so much importance to everything you do. Another one is to find a number of different hobbies/activities/interests. If something caused you to stress, then you can seek comfort in the many activities you've taken up, which will allow you to chill. Try and stay calm at all times, which is easier said than done, but this can be done through breathing exercises and not attaching that 'importance'. Of course you have to find a healthy balance. If you detach yourself from everything, then it can result in anti-social behaviour which can have other consequences. Good Luck.

with this post you sound like a behavioural psychologist or something similar.

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Originally posted by gehzumteufel with this post you sound like a behavioural psychologist or something similar.

Not at all, but I have dated a few that were.

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Originally posted by DJ_Eternal Not at all, but I have dated a few that were.

ahh well that explains it.