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Originally posted by ziptnf Originally posted by ziptnf Man, idk, my girlfriend is a great girl, and I like her a lot, but she gets really put off when I talk to other girls, whether it be online, or what. She thinks that I'm going to leave her or cheat on her. I'm not that kind of guy at all, but she just doesn't seem to trust me on this aspect. Anyone else deal with this?

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Originally posted by KiNeTiC ENeRgY yes...just about any girl who cares for u will do this.

I care a lot about the guys I date...but I'm not going to get upset that my guy has interaction with other females. If he has female friends, its whatever. I have tons of male friends, and I'm not going to give them up just to be with someone.

I guess I don't believe in 'forcing' the relationship. If its not going to work, its not going to work. Why try to eliminate all the possible outside factors (and possibly make your guy think you're a low self-esteem nut job) when there are other problems? Talking to a female friend isn't going to kill the relationship, its other things.

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Originally posted by Yohan lol. that's awesome. small penis, but overinflated ego?

Oh my god, yes. Nikoli, I remember him so fondly. The only guy to ever put his hands on me in an assault. I'm so happy I never did anything with him, I could never wash the disgust off. But he flashed me quite a few times (in the hopes it would 'turn me on'). He was about...hm, I wanna say 5'5" maybe? Pudgy too. Biggest chip on his shoulder ever. He loved calling people out (if he saw an overweight person in public, he would loudly start insulting them), starting fights with any guy who even glanced in my direction, was racist, homophobic, sexist, told me "I will never love you as much as I love money".

He constantly groped and pawed on me, even though I told him to stop ALL THE TIME. He was like "I just can't help it! Boobies are so cool!" If I sat down next to him he'd slide his hand under my shirt between my boobs and be like "You can't say I'm not touching your boobs!"

Constantly groping and touching until eventually, one day I was so frustrated I started to cry when telling him (over and over) to get off me. He did...for the rest of the day.

His penis was probably, literally...4".

The thing was, he was NOT like this at all when we first started to date. He was really cool, loved to go to art galleries (they're okay, not my thing but fun to see), nice to everyone, nice to me, didn't pressure me in any way.

Why didn't I break up with him? I borrowed $500 from him to secure my new apartment (about two months into the relationship (which I fully intended to pay back and did)) and he demanded ALL my checks go to him and he will give me the money he deemed necessary for rent and utilities. It sucked, but I figured it would only take about a month then I could dump his ass. I didn't dare dump him before because 1. His dad is one of those ambulance chaser lawyers and I didn't want to get sued (something he threatened me with if I didn't pay him back) and 2. He warned me he would 'ruin me' if I tried to stop paying him.

So about two months go by and he's still demanding I owe him money. I look at my checks, subtract what he gives me and realize I've paid him WAY over the $500. I confront him. He then pulls up a computer program that manages your money and shows me the tab for me.

Every little expense, from the $1 piece of candy he bought me, to the very expensive dinner he paid for on my birthday, to gas mileage and cost (he insisted on picking me up and taking me to his place about 20 miles away every day) to what he deemed 'extra stress on utilities' (me turning on the bathroom light to go in there, blah blah).

He then smirks and says "Yeah, you owe me about $2000. I guess you'll just have to stay with me forever, huh?"

I eventually tell him to eat a dick (he did try to sue but was laughed out of court). He stalked me for a bit after that, but eventually (last I heard) found someone else's life to ruin.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

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Originally posted by coroknight Later she got drunk and fucked some guy she was friends with and then she tells me "please don't leave me, please!" which i thought was fucked up cuz we weren't even BF or GF yet. Oh she also got engaged to an illegal mexican worker who she broke up with a few months after meeting me.

That sounds like a fun girl right there. Are there any post-break up stories, like sobbing calls at 3am or stalking in the bushes outside your house and leaving gifts on the porch?

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Originally posted by Banora He then pulls up a computer program that manages your money and shows me the tab for me. Every little expense, from the $1 piece of candy he bought me, to the very expensive dinner he paid for on my birthday, to gas mileage and cost (he insisted on picking me up and taking me to his place about 20 miles away every day) to what he deemed 'extra stress on utilities' (me turning on the bathroom light to go in there, blah blah). He then smirks and says "Yeah, you owe me about $2000. I guess you'll just have to stay with me forever, huh?" I eventually tell him to eat a dick (he did try to sue but was laughed out of court). He stalked me for a bit after that, but eventually (last I heard) found someone else's life to ruin.

Holy shit, that's a lot of psycho. Sounds like you got away clean though!

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Originally posted by whiskers That sounds like a fun girl right there. Are there any post-break up stories, like sobbing calls at 3am or stalking in the bushes outside your house and leaving gifts on the porch?

Slight error in what I said. She was engaged BEFORE she met me. But yes I tried talking to her as little as possible but she would IM me EVERY time i got online. Then she would text me "we don't talk like we use to. I miss it" and I thought to myself "no shit we broke up." But i'm sort of a nice guy so I try to let her down easy by talking to her but giving her the shortest answers possible. She would keep flirting with me and tell me shit like "me and my friend are playing badminton so we can get big asses. Badminton strengthens the ass muscles" wtf. Eventually I just started talking with excessive swearing and adding in dirty jokes. She is really innocent so she couldn't stand that. Eventually we just stopped talking.

With the asian girl she keeps inviting me to anime conventions

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Originally posted by Taranis I seem to be a magnet for crazy chicks, it all starts out the same:

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(I have a theory that a relationship's health is inversely proportional to how intoxicated you are when it begins) and so the grand cycle of life continues.

i think your theory may be flawed

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Originally posted by whiskers That sounds like a fun girl right there. Are there any post-break up stories, like sobbing calls at 3am or stalking in the bushes outside your house and leaving gifts on the porch?

Is leaving a gift bad? My ex and I split in June, but his birthday was in September, so I mailed him a gift (just to be nice). It wasn't anything major.

Great, now this has me paranoid he took it as a creepy move.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

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Originally posted by Banora I care a lot about the guys I date...but I'm not going to get upset that my guy has interaction with other females. If he has female friends, its whatever. I have tons of male friends, and I'm not going to give them up just to be with someone. I guess I don't believe in 'forcing' the relationship. If its not going to work, its not going to work. Why try to eliminate all the possible outside factors (and possibly make your guy think you're a low self-esteem nut job) when there are other problems? Talking to a female friend isn't going to kill the relationship, its other things. Oh my god, yes. Nikoli, I remember him so fondly. The only guy to ever put his hands on me in an assault. I'm so happy I never did anything with him, I could never wash the disgust off. But he flashed me quite a few times (in the hopes it would 'turn me on'). He was about...hm, I wanna say 5'5" maybe? Pudgy too. Biggest chip on his shoulder ever. He loved calling people out (if he saw an overweight person in public, he would loudly start insulting them), starting fights with any guy who even glanced in my direction, was racist, homophobic, sexist, told me "I will never love you as much as I love money". He constantly groped and pawed on me, even though I told him to stop ALL THE TIME. He was like "I just can't help it! Boobies are so cool!" If I sat down next to him he'd slide his hand under my shirt between my boobs and be like "You can't say I'm not touching your boobs!" Constantly groping and touching until eventually, one day I was so frustrated I started to cry when telling him (over and over) to get off me. He did...for the rest of the day. His penis was probably, literally...4". The thing was, he was NOT like this at all when we first started to date. He was really cool, loved to go to art galleries (they're okay, not my thing but fun to see), nice to everyone, nice to me, didn't pressure me in any way. Why didn't I break up with him? I borrowed $500 from him to secure my new apartment (about two months into the relationship (which I fully intended to pay back and did)) and he demanded ALL my checks go to him and he will give me the money he deemed necessary for rent and utilities. It sucked, but I figured it would only take about a month then I could dump his ass. I didn't dare dump him before because 1. His dad is one of those ambulance chaser lawyers and I didn't want to get sued (something he threatened me with if I didn't pay him back) and 2. He warned me he would 'ruin me' if I tried to stop paying him. So about two months go by and he's still demanding I owe him money. I look at my checks, subtract what he gives me and realize I've paid him WAY over the $500. I confront him. He then pulls up a computer program that manages your money and shows me the tab for me. Every little expense, from the $1 piece of candy he bought me, to the very expensive dinner he paid for on my birthday, to gas mileage and cost (he insisted on picking me up and taking me to his place about 20 miles away every day) to what he deemed 'extra stress on utilities' (me turning on the bathroom light to go in there, blah blah). He then smirks and says "Yeah, you owe me about $2000. I guess you'll just have to stay with me forever, huh?" I eventually tell him to eat a dick (he did try to sue but was laughed out of court). He stalked me for a bit after that, but eventually (last I heard) found someone else's life to ruin.

Wow I think you beat me. Thats scary crazy.

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Originally posted by coroknight Wow I think you beat me. Thats scary crazy.

Thats just...the summary with a few details. This guy was fucking nuts. The reason he hit me (in public) was stupid.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

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Originally posted by Banora Is leaving a gift bad? My ex and I split in June, but his birthday was in September, so I mailed him a gift (just to be nice). It wasn't anything major. Great, now this has me paranoid he took it as a creepy move.

If you're on good terms and/or it's been a while since you broke up, it's fine.

But if it's right after a break up, leaving strange gifts on the porch AT NIGHT when the other person wants nothing to have with you / wants to move on... is a creepy move (not that it happened to me). It's as creepy as this:

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Originally posted by coroknight Then she would text me "we don't talk like we use to. I miss it" and I thought to myself "no shit we broke up."

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Originally posted by Banora he hit me (in public)

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Originally posted by Banora This guy was fucking nuts.

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A few years ago after a really bad break-up, I made plans with 3 different guys, 3 weekends in a row to prove to myself that I was fully over the past relationship. I met them all online.

They were record BAD
it was like a fucking sitcom

Guy#1 was 6'8 and we went out for ice cream and he kept talking about all the troubles he endures in life because of his height. I swear at one point I thought he was going to cry

Guy#2 took me out for coffee and I accidentally spilled something on his new Diesel jeans and he yelled at me. YELLED. In fucking Starbucks and people started staring.

Guy#3 seemed fine at first. Small dinner and then went to the movies to see Hostel. Everything was going ok and then when he walked me to my door he whipped out a knife and held it to my face. I fucking screamed and he started laughing hysterically. He thought it would be funny scaring the shit out of me because of all the stabbing that goes in in the movie.



I swear whenever I think about that month, it seems surreal.

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Originally posted by Slylee oh well, different strokes different vaginas

Some dance to remember ~ Some dance to forget

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Originally posted by Ania_xox I met them all online.

this explains it all.

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Guy#3 seemed fine at first. Small dinner and then went to the movies to see Hostel. Everything was going ok and then when he walked me to my door he whipped out a knife and held it to my face. I fucking screamed and he started laughing hysterically. He thought it would be funny scaring the shit out of me because of all the stabbing that goes in in the movie.

@ this guy for having the balls to do that on a first date. That's pretty funny. But, not if he wanted a 2nd date. Did he try to call you again after that?