Mmmmmmm tension.

I think it's definitely possible. I have plenty of friends who are attractive and I have never once wanted to be with them sexually and they have never wanted to be with me sexually.

Now on the other hand, if they are both attracted to each other and wanna hook up, they why the hell shouldn't they? I guess that would eliminate the whole 'platonic friends' thing...

Anyway, still possible.

...and it's possible to be platonic friends after you hook up with someone.Those feelings can change and you just kinda move on with the friendship.

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Originally posted by ohnoway I think it's definitely possible. I have plenty of friends who are attractive and I have never once wanted to be with them sexually

doesn't make any sense imo. it all boils down to physical attractiveness = sexual attractiveness, therefore anyone you find attractive, you could see yourself bang.

i'm not saying you can't have a close friendship with the opposite sex, i'm sure it works for some people. i'm just saying the notion of "i find XXXX really physically attractive but do not want and have never once thought of her sexually" is a load of bullshit. you're lying to yourself.

There is a difference between finding your friends attractive, vs being attracted to your friend. If the latter applies to a situation you are in, then just being friends won't happen.

Ok one, I think a lot of you are missing the point. Simply because YOU do not happen to harbor longing lustful feelings for your "friend" doesn't mean they feel the same way. All I'm reading is "I wouldn't bla bla bla" - when in fact, the issue is that one or the other eventually, at some point (or always) harbors feelings. Jenny - you've had a boyfriend for a decade. No offense, but one of your guy "friends" aren't going to say "oh hey - btw, I want to bang you." Seriously, now.

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Originally posted by SYSTEM-J Yeah, I fully agree with you, but what worries me is the possibility that even if we have no intention of doing anything, we're still enacting an essentially fake friendship motivated ultimately by our libido. It suggests that men-women friendships are fundamentally different to men-men or women-women friendships. I'd like to think that any attraction is just incidental and I'd still have the same number of female friends if I had no attraction to any of them.

Two, men-women friendships ARE fundamentally different. A man-woman friendship can be close, but it is different than a woman-woman or a man-man. One of my best friends is a guy (yes - we have had feelings for each other, just never at the same time) and my friendship with him is significantly different than my friendship with a female friend. Other friendships with male friends are also different. And (eventually) you always find out who has feelings for who.... somewhere down the line. In fact, a woman-woman friendship is even more fundamentally different than a man-man friendship.

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Originally posted by squirrelly Ok one, I think a lot of you are missing the point. Simply because YOU do not happen to harbor longing lustful feelings for your "friend" doesn't mean they feel the same way. All I'm reading is "I wouldn't bla bla bla" - when in fact, the issue is that one or the other eventually, at some point (or always) harbors feelings. Jenny - you've had a boyfriend for a decade. No offense, but one of your guy "friends" aren't going to say "oh hey - btw, I want to bang you." Seriously, now.

The Polish whore is right.

I try sometimes

The sitcoms are right on this one for the most part. If you want to bang someone, you.... um... want to bang them.

I've known most of my guy friends longer than I've been with my bf, and I've not always been in a relationship. When my bf and I split for 2 years, only 1 of my buddies tried anything. Believe me, I can pretty much guarantee the majority of my guy friends think of me as a dude. The ones who would fuck me have never hesitated to verbalize it.

You're different, Jennie. You act like a guy. Most guys would rather not fuck guys.

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Originally posted by squirrelly Ok one, I think a lot of you are missing the point. Simply because YOU do not happen to harbor longing lustful feelings for your "friend" doesn't mean they feel the same way. All I'm reading is "I wouldn't bla bla bla" - when in fact, the issue is that one or the other eventually, at some point (or always) harbors feelings. Jenny - you've had a boyfriend for a decade. No offense, but one of your guy "friends" aren't going to say "oh hey - btw, I want to bang you." Seriously, now. Two, men-women friendships ARE fundamentally different. A man-woman friendship can be close, but it is different than a woman-woman or a man-man. One of my best friends is a guy (yes - we have had feelings for each other, just never at the same time) and my friendship with him is significantly different than my friendship with a female friend. Other friendships with male friends are also different. And (eventually) you always find out who has feelings for who.... somewhere down the line. In fact, a woman-woman friendship is even more fundamentally different than a man-man friendship.

100% agree, woman-woman friendships usually involve going to the washroom together / making lesbian home videos together, on the other hand, man-man friendhsips consist of drinking beer, b-b-q and talking about sports, unless your bas / clovis, then it also includes buttsekz

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN I have 3 hobbies: gaming, DJing & correcting maladjusted fools on the internet.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN Yeah, I’d like to know what horrible, scarring incident in your childhood turned you into such an ignorant, intellectual-hating philistine?

You know this time around I actually thought it was possible, this friend of mine I`ve known for about a month. We seemed cool, but last night she was over and told me shes scared of these feelings she has for me, not sure if they are mutual on my end AT ALL so I just said some bull shit and took her home.

It really IS NOT possible. The one time you think YOU CAN handle just being friends is the time SHE will want to bang you.

Or as PKC pointed out in your case, he.

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