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Originally posted by Slylee oh ok so it's just a big defense mechanism. push it away and don't experience it at all because it might haunt you later in life and make you actually have feelings! fuckin robot

That's not what he said at all.

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Originally posted by Arbiter For me, loneliness is always tied to missing some specific individual. As a result, the risk of loneliness may actually be higher if I were to marry, since I might well experience considerable loneliness associated with that person's absence if I were to outlive them. Granted, that's a risk with any long-term relationship, marriage or no marriage. I've already been down that road, and I'm not in any particular hurry to go there again.

that's what i was talking about and i think it sounds like a defense mechanism....according to page 222 in chapter 9 of this psychology book i have at home.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

GOD. YOU'RE SO DUMB. IT'S PAGE 227!

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Slylee that's what i was talking about and i think it sounds like a defense mechanism....according to page 222 in chapter 9 of this psychology book i have at home.

I was merely pointing out that fear of loneliness would be a poor reason for me to reconsider my views on marriage. However, I am not necessarily opposed to a course of action that carries with it a risk of future loneliness, so long as it offers benefits sufficient to offset that risk.

Of course, I won't deny that I employ a variety of defense mechanisms. Love is a battlefield, and I always carefully observe Zhongda's five operations:

If you can fight, fight; if you cannot fight, defend; if you cannot defend, flee; if you cannot flee, surrender; if you cannot surrender, die.

Marriage is surrender, so I will always defend or flee if possible before resorting to such action.

arbiter, who hurt you?

LET ME IN!

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

lol surrender

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well to me, being able to love again after being burned is a huge sign of strength. not letting anyone else in because of something that happened to you in the past is weak as far as i'm concerned.

i'm really glad that i was taught by both parents that shit happens in life and when you fall down or get your heart broken, you grieve for a little bit and then you get back up and dust your shoulders off and keep moving. it's a trait i have that i'm very proud of actually. nothing can really keep me down when it comes to stuff like that. life is too short.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

Tell us more about yourself, Slylee.

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Originally posted by Slipmat Tell us more about yourself, Slylee.

drama queen

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Slylee arbiter, who hurt you?

No one who has lived to tell the tale.

lol suuure

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone