Registered: Apr 2007
Location: on the midnight street
After hearing it brought up about a million times in all kinds of situations, the answer to this question still eludes me:
Why can women overtly compliment or make sexual comments to other women without it being gay?
I mean I fully feel the difference... I just don't understand it.
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Originally posted by Slylee
oh well, different strokes different vaginas
Some dance to remember ~ Some dance to forget
Jun-16-2010 13:09
igottaknow
PerfectTeeth R4 Dinosaurs
Registered: Feb 2001
Location: The Future
for women, compliment = compliment
for men, compliment = i want to have sex with you
Jun-16-2010 13:15
Ania_xox
let me drive
Registered: Apr 2007
Location: on the midnight street
Yesterday I was sharing a rather naughty story with my friend Samantha and her response was "Seriously, that totally turned me on and if I was a lesbian I would want to have sex with you right now"
But we don't want to have sex with eachother and we won't. And the next time I see her, I'm not going to feel weirded out. In fact, I'll probably forget about the conversation entirely.
I don't think any man could say the same.
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Originally posted by Slylee
oh well, different strokes different vaginas
Some dance to remember ~ Some dance to forget
Jun-16-2010 13:19
GoSpeedGo!
no more Mr. Nice Guy
Registered: May 2006
Location: Eisenstein's laboratory
quote:
Originally posted by Ania_xox
After hearing it brought up about a million times in all kinds of situations, the answer to this question still eludes me:
Why can women overtly compliment or make sexual comments to other women without it being gay?
I mean I fully feel the difference... I just don't understand it.
Appearance is very important to women, and they constantly compare themselves to each other. So when a girl tells her female friend that they look good, they know it translates to "Hey, I want you to help you feel good about yourself."
For men, there is no need to mutually reassure themselves that they look good (that's not to say they are always confident about that, it's just not so high on their priority list), so every positive remark by another guy regarding their looks is inherently seen as sexual.
Last edited by GoSpeedGo! on Jun-16-2010 at 13:33
Jun-16-2010 13:26
bananas
baby i got your money
Registered: Oct 2004
Location: Mordor
quote:
Originally posted by Lomeli
Not gay:
"Nah man, you're a good looking guy... you can get any girl you want."
Gay:
"Damn dude, you have a nice ass."
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Originally posted by Sunsnail
It's not that we think these things and don't say them because of society. It's because straight men really don't think about these things.
Jun-16-2010 13:33
igottaknow
PerfectTeeth R4 Dinosaurs
Registered: Feb 2001
Location: The Future
[cool story]The other day I was walking down a city street in my suit. And a random guy passing in the opposite direction said. "Nice tie". I smiled awkwardly thanked him, thought to my self, "yeah it is pretty nice and I got it at Marshals for half the price." But then I was like fuck what if the dude is gay and he was hitting on me?" For the rest of the day I had an uneasy feeling.[/cool story]
Jun-16-2010 21:58
Sushipunk
Flickering, I roam
Registered: Sep 2006
Location: Chateau Verdafloor
quote:
Originally posted by igottaknow
[cool story]The other day I was walking down a city street in my suit and tie. And a random guy passing in the opposite direction said. "Nice tie". I smiled awkwardly thanked him, thought to my self, "yeah it is pretty nice and I got it at Marshals for half the price. But then I was like fuck what if the dude is gay and he was hitting on me?" For the rest of the day I had an uneasy feeling.[/cool story]
Pics of the tie.
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Jun-16-2010 22:00
igottaknow
PerfectTeeth R4 Dinosaurs
Registered: Feb 2001
Location: The Future
quote:
Originally posted by Sushipunk
Pics of the tie.
come to think of it, its not that special maybe he was gay
Jun-16-2010 22:16
EddieZilker
This is the dance.
Registered: Jan 2009
Location: Marijuana Sex Camp
quote:
Originally posted by igottaknow
come to think of it, its not that special maybe he was gay
Yeah, I'd say you probably misheard "Nice dick" or something.
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Jun-16-2010 22:19
igottaknow
PerfectTeeth R4 Dinosaurs
Registered: Feb 2001
Location: The Future
quote:
Originally posted by Sushipunk
Yeah, I'd say you probably misheard "Nice dick" or something.
with my luck i wouldn't rule it out.
Jun-16-2010 22:21
EddieZilker
This is the dance.
Registered: Jan 2009
Location: Marijuana Sex Camp
Yeah, unless he was wearing the SAME tie - even with the sun hitting the light blue shirt in coordination with the radiosity of the tie's fabric, and your eyes (which is kind of gay) - it's totally gay.