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what are the so called cultural developments and where is the equality in civilized society that you talk about ? It's only on paper and perhaps enforced by the law. But scratch the surface and people are just the same everywhere. Everybody clings to his own belief system resolutely. You have the same problems in America or India or Middle East or China or Japan or Brazil or anywhere else in the world. Social conditioning of 1000s of years cannot be erased within 50 years.
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Especially not with people like you continuing to defend them. People had to work hard to convince ignorant white men that, yes, blacks have souls, they are people too. Women had to work hard for years to earn the right to vote. Of course people everywhere cling to backwards ideas, but you wont reach greater understanding and see those developments in equality materialize unless you push hard in that direction. Is it suddenly not worth fighting for since "people everywhere do it"? That is absurd. Would you have defended slavery in the 17=1800s on the grounds that "people cling to their beliefs, and you must be sensitive to other ways of thinking in different cultures"? No. It was wrong. I personally try and stand up for what is right and this is just one of those cases.
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Again, what you are talk about are qualities and rights of individuals. In the indian "conservative" system, individuals place equal importance to the well being of their blood relations. People are willing to make compromises for the sake of a better quality of life for the entire group. Indian families include their parents, americans don't. This is a fundamental difference bewteen the two cultures. |
Why is the well being of the family dependent on marrying into a specific race? I am not advocating that people be allowed to marry reckless and dangerous people just for the sake of it. All I'm saying is that RACE should not be a determining factor on whether or not the bride or groom should fit in with the family. Why should it matter? If Angela and the guy are a good match, and love each other, why should she be scorned by the family just because she is white? I understand it is tradition, but it is a racist tradition and it is wrong. I'm not comparing Indian families to American ones, or any family to any other. I'm american and I place great importance on the well being of my blood relations, but not to the point where they can impede on my own well being and happiness just to satisfy ancient customs that have no rational basis in today's world.
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You place individual freedom over everything else and you are asking the parents to respect it. But other people don't see things this way. They give more importance to family and the wellbeing of their parents and see it necessary that the person whom they will marry adds to the quality of life of everybody and not just him/her. These are not archaic ideas. They are just different from what you believe. |
Again, how will Angela not add to the quality of life of this family? Why shouldn't they accept someone loving and caring just because of their race? If adding to the family's quality of life was the issue, we would not be having this discussion, but that is not it. The issue is why parents should be able to decide that their offspring marry into a particular race regardless of whom that child chooses to love. I don't support judging people baced on race and culture alone and I never will.
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