Mec, jealousy is often born of insecurity.

So first try to look at why you might be feeling insecure...

is it your first relationship? is it because of the way this relationship started (she was cheating on someone else to be with you)? are you typically a good boyfriend? are you insecure because of the long distance thing? Does she make you insecure because she puts you down a lot or is overly critical?

Try to figure out why. That might help YOU handle the situation.

Otherwise try to organize your thoughts. So you can discuss it without attacking her. Its really hard to communicate when two people are in attack/defend mode. If you can express your thoughts in terms of YOUR feelings (versus her actions), the conversation should go better. Because it sounds like she respects your feelings.

No one likes to be called names or attacked but most people are receptive to others feelings and if she knows chatting online bothers you and she understands why it bothers you...she might stop for the relationship... or she might work out a compromise with you.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec Damn im 90 miles away from my gurl....i have herpes from her...i feel like shit...but im really thinking now of letting her go. I feel like at this point in my life...."im better off alone"... she aint cheating on me but she goes online and i saw her chatting today...we met online ya know....pretty scary isnt it... holidays are coming up...

i just broke up with my girl of 5 years a few days ago...it was mutual...but damn now that the holidays are creeping up...



.dJonE.

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Originally posted by speedracer_mec Im so traumatized....and to be honest we're both whooped on each other. All her friends went clubbin last night..and she stayed home and talked to me on the phone

Have you met these "friends" of hers? Because all the ppl I've met who try to hook up on the net are complete freaks of society. I mean cmon theres a reason why you've had to resort to the internet. Kids theses days. new topic...lets photoshop more PP pix.

'mju:zik - im confused.. i thought you were defending her when everyone took a jab and now you are trying to instigate another flame war? are you just trying to breed controversy?

I feel sorry for people who arent single. 90% of couples are miserable. and that is a statistic I got off of www.actualstatistics.com/worldevents so dont tell me Im talking out of my ass.

i broke up with my chic of 7 years a couple months back and DAMN am i glad i did it rather than stay in a relationship that wasnt making me happy...worst 2 things you can do are stay with someone for the wrong reasons or end up with the wrong person for the right reasons

just do what you think is right and its the best choice dude

(*side note* the ex didnt like trance...shoulda dumped her long ago for that alone)

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Originally posted by DjOvertime i broke up with my chic of 7 years a couple months back and DAMN am i glad i did it rather than stay in a relationship that wasnt making me happy...worst 2 things you can do are stay with someone for the wrong reasons or end up with the wrong person for the right reasons just do what you think is right and its the best choice dude (*side note* the ex didnt like trance...shoulda dumped her long ago for that alone)

very good advise....thats what happened to me, i wish i would of figured out sooner not 5 years into the relationship...oh well 5 years of experience


.dJonE.

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i think imma go see a clinical doctor for depression

this year has been too much for me and im soooo paranoid.

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Originally posted by KristineClub N9o2w *I kn9o2w h2w9o 8it f3e3els t9o b3e s8ingl3e t9o9o. S9o4r4ry ab9o7ut all th3e n7umb3e4rs, my b4r9oth3e4r s0p8ill3ed b3e3e4r 9on th3e k3eyb9oa4rd and n9o2w 8it's all f7uck3ed 7u0p!Q *I h9o0p3e y9o7u g7uys can f8ig7u4r3e 9o7ut 2what *I'm say8ing!Q Any2way, b3e8ing s8ingl3e s7ucks.

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If she's had that many one night stands, gave you herpes, meets multiple guys from the internet, goes home with guys that she meets in clubs, that pretty much spells out: slut.

being someone who is very educated about STDs (as in, scared shitless of getting them, so i ask my doctor/s tons of questions), these kind of statements irk me. so, here are a few facts about herpes:

the statistic is either 1 in 4 or 1 in 3 people have herpes (pretty sure its 1 in 3). herpes is one of those STDs, like HPV, which often doesn't show symptoms. thus, it gets spread around a lot. in addition, there isn't really an accurate test for it. i had always assumed that the "all-in-one" test i get during my annual covered herpes.. but alas, my doctor mentioned the last time how there is only a blood test for herpes, but it isn't very accurate, because ... so in general, you only know you have it if you have a break-out (just like HPV).

i don't know.. i think it is really ignorant for people to assume someone who has an STD is a slut. hell, 75% of sexually active people have HPV, most dont know they have it. 1/3 is a pretty damn high number too, for herpes. you could get either of those STDs from the first person you are with. luck of the draw. (and statistically speaking, the odds are very, very against you.)

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wear a jimmy

condoms absolutely don't protect against HPV. fairly certain they are not very effective against herpes either (especially if you have sores).

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she showed me test results from early in the yr.

see my above comment about there not being a very effective test for herpes. you should have educated yourself on STDs before deciding to have sex, and realized that you were taking a risk. you took the risk, and you are now one of a SHITLOAD of people who has a STD. its not the end of the world, for christ's sake. don't act like it is.

anyways, carry on.

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Originally posted by montie the above internet nerds/hacker nerd super hyked up on crack and speed

Hehe, sorry, I'm on my parents' computer now. My brother spilled beer on my keyboard so it's all fucked up. I was just gonna see if anyone could figure out what I was saying- they're actual sentences, just some extra letters and numbers in between. I got on it today and it's gotten worse!

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