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| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
every girl is different, but for me, it is really a turn off when a guy has that attitude like, “whatever, if she wants to get to know me, she can come to me”. I guess I’m old fashioned. Don't get me wrong though, I have no problem striking up a conversation with a guy and talking, and dropping hints that I'm interested (without throwing myself at him).
guys, it is a MAJORLY OBVIOUS sign if a girl initiates a conversation and is talkative with you and smiles a lot while talking...it’s like, “HELLO! ASK FOR MY NUMBER”! do we have to stamp it on our foreheads for you guys to feel confident enough to make a move?
I just feel like guys have less confidence these days when it comes to approaching girls...who knows, maybe it’s our fault (women) because we make it too easy for you. I just feel that men should take the initiative and ask for a girl’s phone number or ask for a date, at least the first time. Not always though, I’m just saying in general. I think overly assertive women who buy men drinks and ask them out for dinner are just setting themselves up for disappointment... I like a guy who takes charge, and has the restaurant/plans all picked out ahead of time, etc.. i can be that way too though, but that's usually only after the relationship is solid and monogamous...i love making plans and surprising my sweetie and having a whole romantic night planned out.
but as far as the first date, i think it's way better when the guy asks for the number and makes the move... |
I agree with that, but if I try to talk to a girl and she doesn't pay much attention, I'll move on. Most times I'm at the club with friends anyway. I'd rather hang out than feel I have to be on the prowl all the time. I end up talking to enough women, and of course I ask for the number. I don't think anyone should be a wuss about it, but you don't necessarily have to make meeting women the number one priority. I find I do better when I don't stress over it, and let things come to me.
I understand the planned date thing too. My mom is like you in that sense. I think those are good, but I generally like doing things at the spur of the moment. But the first few dates should be arranged by the man. Taking charge is important, or you might bore the girl. It really depends on how you meet though. If you meet and hook up, it's different than if you have been friends for a while before, or have met several times. Every situation has a different strategy, I believe.
Also, the worst thing that can happen if you ask for a girls number is that she'll say no. I've only had that happen a couple of times, when I feel as though they are vibing with me. Once was a week and a half ago with a girl I've met a bunch of times. She flirts with me too, but I found out she's seeing someone. Even if she just didn't want to give it out, it's not a big deal. There are plenty of women out there you can meet and talk to. Have confidence, try to read their body language, and move on it.
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. second, when you're drunk you can be as straight forward as you want to be, it's that simple. if both of you are drunk, then you both are having a good time, looking to possibly hook up with people...just be straight forward and say she looks hot tonight or something.
