All right, let's get some things straight... flirting is healthy, and we humans need it, cuz it releases some of the same chemicals that are being released during sex. So, here are the unwritten rules of flirting... written down:

RULE #1: The truth is - I don't have any serious intentions.

RULE #2: I really like what I'm experiencing right now.

RULE #3 (and the most important one): I don't know how long I will be feeling what I'm feeling right now.

As long as you follow the above rules, flerting is safe...

Now, you just gotta make a distinction between JUST flirting and hitting on someone, resisting the temptation, etc, etc...

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Originally posted by ChemEnhanced That is easier said then done for some people. People like myself who are intraverts have a very difficult time talking to new people...especially when it comes to flirting. There is a constant struggle in their heads that some can never get over.

I somewhat agree. Once I get passed the shyness stage I think the struggle is with where I should draw the line. The thought of saying the wrong thing and looking like a jackass to this girl I just met is what holds me back sometimes. Once I get to know her and know what her boundaries are I got no problems flirting. Unfortunately by that time (if this was a girl I'm interested in) I'm in the "nice guy" aka friend ladder and taking the leap will lead to my demise. But there is something to be said about chemistry as well. Sometimes you meet people who you instantly click with and feel comfortable saying anything to.

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Originally posted by feems always a riot jem u are. well since its your friends boyfriend maybe its a good thing you lost ur game maybe its ur concious telling you that flirting with him isnt such a good idea

No no no..
not my friends boyfriend.. my friends boyfriends friend..
as in the friend of the guy my friend is dating

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Originally posted by ChemEnhanced That is easier said then done for some people. People like myself who are intraverts have a very difficult time talking to new people...especially when it comes to flirting. There is a constant struggle in their heads that some can never get over.

i used to find it difficult when i was younger... but i somehow just forced myself to actually do it and i would question myself "why am i so concerned" and i could never come up with a good legitimate reason... so i eventually just ended up making myself do it w/o over thinking it, and now it naturally happens.

try to beat ur inhibitions (but once again, yea, that's easier said than done... but trying is the first step...)

-jem-

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Originally posted by Crazy Serb All right, let's get some things straight... flirting is healthy, and we humans need it, cuz it releases some of the same chemicals that are being released during sex. So, here are the unwritten rules of flirting... written down: RULE #1: The truth is - I don't have any serious intentions. RULE #2: I really like what I'm experiencing right now. RULE #3 (and the most important one): I don't know how long I will be feeling what I'm feeling right now. As long as you follow the above rules, flerting is safe... Now, you just gotta make a distinction between JUST flirting and hitting on someone, resisting the temptation, etc, etc...

I like this post. Honeslty, that's the way I see flerting too. Great post dude.

-jem-

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The way I see it..

This stuff with "what are they thinking" "am I over-doing it" is either

a) Paranoia over a stupid matter like this. Use you're judgement. If the other person is in a relationship, don't deal with it. Or you're just smoking too much chronic.

b) You're over-analyzing the flirt. Hell, most guys do it "wow is she getting bored" "does she want to screw me" etc. Useless garbage that in the long run leaves you nothing but confused and annoyed...


I hate to say it but, buddy, when at parties in clubs it's the greatest feeling. I know the crazyserb said it, imagine you had the very same conversation without the thought of sex on you're mind. You wouldn't be here asking for advice.

I'm not the one to give advice, but if you see him again see how he acts. It could have been a spur of the moment thing.

-Jesus with a cowboy hat-

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Originally posted by Jem_hadar Flerting is fun, totally! I love it. But I do like to eventually get down to business and stop playing games and have all players involved lay down their cards so each person TRULY knows where the other is standing. -jem-

^^^^This man is the OFFICAL TOTA FLIRT. The amount of breast grabbing pics you pull off is uncanny. I am teh jealous

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Originally posted by VERTiG0 Holy fuck that's hot* *not hot

Why are you so cool and funny? I literally sit here at 6:15 am, dying for sleep but still laugh right out loud when I read your words. God bless you, man.