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Originally posted by Moral Hazard The way I see it is as follows; Marriage is meant to be a total and equal partnership. In my view both of those need to be true in order for it to work (or work well anyway). The problem seperate accounts brings is that it inevitably leads to a financial dispairity between the partners. As we all know money is power therefore it follows that a difference in the financial footing of the partners creates a power inbalance. Now this can be great if you happen to be the one with more power, however, if one has more power then their partner the "equal" partnership simply doesn't exist. No one should ever have the upper hand in a marriage.... there should be no hands.

i agree with you. i also think it is just easier to have shared accounts. right now, between me and my husband, we have like 6 accounts (we have so many b/c of 2 different countries). it is kind of confusing, and the shared account is a lot easier. i think it is a personal preference, but if you can make it work between 2 different accounts, then fine, but it confuses me.

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Right now we have a joint account with one checking and one savings. Once I'm done with immigration and can get a job up here, I plan to open another checking account, and then from there we plan to pool a savings account as a certain percentage of our wages.

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Originally posted by Masonious you win again dude - and nice move shoving the whole i figured out how to order pizza thing in my face. i tried that 4 and a half months ago and woke up with a Taiwanese transvestite but to Ygrene it's just, "anoother day in the life, noooo biggieee".

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Originally posted by Theresa In my opinion, when you marry someone, you are essentially merging into one entity

the borg? you must be assimilated get away from me bitch i'm my own man and you aint tellin me how to spend my cheeese.

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Originally posted by Inconspicuous ...I'd still want a pre-nup, though. .

if you think you are currently worth enough at the beginning of the marriage that you might be worried she'll take if you divorce,... if not b/c most of us here on TA now i wouldnt think are the multi-millionaires that would require said pre-nup..

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Originally posted by Theresa In my opinion, when you marry someone, you are essentially signing a piece of paper.

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Originally posted by Zewad if you think you are currently worth enough at the beginning of the marriage that you might be worried she'll take if you divorce,... if not b/c most of us here on TA now i wouldnt think are the multi-millionaires that would require said pre-nup..

Wouldn't now, but plan to at some point.

EDIT: Besides, that's not really what I meant. Even if it's gonna save me $50,000 (or $500,000, or $50,000,000), I don't want money to play into any decision as to whether or not to stay with someone. If it's not working, I don't want to think, "well, I really don't love her at all any more, but it's gonna cost me $100,000...I guess I can stick it out for a while."

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Originally posted by paranoik0 fixed

True, but that isn't what marriage symbolizes to me.

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Originally posted by Theresa True, but that isn't what marriage symbolizes to me.

what? little pink hearts, rainbows, and unicorns?

keep everything separate.
weigh the pros and cons btwn separate or joint accounts and you'll see.
think in terms of if u split, and if you don't think in those terms, that's just being in denial and dumb.

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Originally posted by Azia keep everything separate. weigh the pros and cons btwn separate or joint accounts and you'll see. think in terms of if u split, and if you don't think in those terms, that's just being in denial and dumb.

Isn't it kind of stupid to plan for divorce? If you think you're going to get divorced, why get married at all?

You're already setting the marriage up for failure by assuming that it wont work out.

No wonder the divorce rate is through the roof.

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Originally posted by igottaknow what? little pink hearts, rainbows, and unicorns?

Exactly.

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Originally posted by Azia keep everything separate. weigh the pros and cons btwn separate or joint accounts and you'll see. think in terms of if u split, and if you don't think in those terms, that's just being in denial and dumb.

having a separate account isnt going to really help out in a divorce. if you own a house and other assets then you have to split that too. then you have to pay lawyers and other fees. a bank account wont matter in the long run really.

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