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| quote: | Originally posted by Teh Jim
YEARS?! Jesus. I mean, I still find her attractive, but I find almost all my friends attractive in a way. Everyone at some point considers what it'd be like to get down with the people they know, or people they pass on the street, or the cop that just took their licence. It's human nature.
What you do with that is up to you, and all the weak pansies who will fracture friendships, either theirs or others, because of their own insecurity at being able to control their pants need to have a long look in a mirror for the person to blame. |
I hear you man. I think about banging people all the time that I know I never really would. But I wasn't making a blanket statement. I think the greater the seriousness of the relationship and the deeper the personal history between 2 people that are now broken up, the longer it will take to "get over" them. I tossed out the term "a few years" because that's usually enough time for most people to lose their feelings for an ex and at the same time evolve into a different person emotionally/mentally or whatever. And I agree with you that personal responsibility plays a part... I just think in Sylee's case, maybe not enough time has passed between her BF and his ex, combined with them not being together for so long and her admitted insecurities (not a dig at you, Sylee )
My thing is just, if he really loves her and knows how she feels, then sacrificing his not-so-distant ex relationship for the good of his current one is not a lot to ask. Maybe he can be totally trusted, but why even put yourself in the situation. It's like when a girl dresses all uber sexy with a micro skirt on and her tits hanging out at some dive bar, and gets annoyed when the riff raff won't leave her alone. Yeah she didn't "ask for it", but common sense says she should know better than to put herself in that situation if she wants different results
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