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Originally posted by Slylee i like the term 110% !

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Originally posted by Slylee if anything, i think whatever they did and lived through would give them MORE character having risen above that mentality.

I tend to agree with this. I mean, I dunno about everyone else...but for myself, I know that making mistakes and doing shit that is out of my character is exactly what helps me to see and question who I am, and thus learn and grow as a person.

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Originally posted by Slylee yea i definitely didn't love the ones i cheated on...or respect them. one of them barely respected himself and i can't stand that. i just wasn't happy and probably wasn't ready to end it just yet (selfish and immature).

sometimes when you are in an unhealthy relationship you can't make yourself end it and move on for a variety of reasons. Cheating in a relationship like this isn't the same as cheating on someone who you love and with whom you are in a good relationship. Sometimes cheating is just the thing you need in order to end a bad relationship that needed to be ended a long time ago

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Originally posted by Slylee gauss...it's possible that someone having no character and being truly fucked up at 19-20 years old could do some growing up and be of sound character by the time they are in their late 20s. if anything, i think whatever they did and lived through would give them MORE character having risen above that mentality.

agreed, people can grow and change, both for the better and for the worse. I've seen it first hand in people I know. judging someone totally based on past actions and ignoring any changes they made in their life is ignorant. I have an uncle who cheated on my aunt many times when he was younger, he was a piece of shit bastard then. But one day he had one of those life changing moments and decided to give up alcohol and women and has been faithful and a good husband for the last 20 years. Should I still view him as a piece of shit cheater or should I give him credit for the changes he made in his life? How would you like it gauss if people held every mistake you ever made against you regardless of your attempts to change?

Let's all throw rocks at Gauss! I'm sure he sinned at least once in his life! FUCKING SINNING ASSHOLE.

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Originally posted by Slylee and i'm the type of person who makes it pretty clear if i like you or not. i mean there are definitely some people out there would say, "jamie is a selfish little bitch i can't stand her" and then there's people who would tell you i'm the biggest sweetheart they've ever met who would give u the shirt off my back. i guess if i like you, i like you. and if i don't, i don't...and you'll know which category you fall under.

Funnily enough, I know a couple of people like this, and they are always female.

I've never met a guy with that sort of quality.

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Originally posted by jennypie Let's all throw rocks at Gauss! I'm sure he sinned at least once in his life! FUCKING SINNING ASSHOLE.

Nah, I've been cheated on once and I don't even look at her when I see her in town, let alone say hi.

I think anyone here saying that if one cheats they cannot possibly love the one they cheat on is way off base. In my experience cheating has little or nothing to do with the one being cheated on and everything to do with the one who is cheating. Cheating is normally born of the shortcomings the cheater feels in themselves rather than with the their partner.

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Originally posted by RickyM you're just a shit version of Moral Hazard. At least he knows what he's talking about.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN lol, i love it when moral feels the need to lay the smack down

Shut the fuck up, Craig. Everyone knows how you get down:

i cheated when miserable and in some sort of attempt to end things. not the most noble way of doing things, but whatever i was immature. i would never cheat on anyone at this point in my life. and i dont look down on someone who has cheated either. if a friend of mine came to me and told me they cheated on their S.O., the first thing i'd want to know is why and what the circumstances were.

and kr00t there are more people who think i'm nice than people who hate me. i'm pretty sure of that. i've hurt and disrespected only a handful of people for whatever reasons, but i'm overall a very generous and tolerant person in relationships.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard Cheating is normally born of the shortcomings the cheater feels in themselves rather than with the their partner.

exactly

oh yea and i've also read and heard a lot (like on T.V. or mag articles) that usually if men cheat, it's pretty simple why....they aren't getting any. lol but when women cheat, it's more complicated and usually due to them not feeling loved or wanted and being miserable and confused.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone