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Originally posted by whiskers If you're on good terms and/or it's been a while since you broke up, it's fine.

Well that makes me feel better. We broke up because, well, we were at different points of our lives (I wanted a relationship, he realized he wasn't done being single) which I can't be angry at him for.

When he told me, I didn't cry or beg. I just said 'okay' because, even though it hurt so much (he's the only guy I ever came close to loving) I knew it was for the best. I didn't text or talk to him for a few days, we exchanged our things and that was pretty much it. I invited him to a movie with some friends a few weeks later but he didn't go. He called me for my birthday, but after that we never spoke again.

Then I mailed him a gift for his birthday a few months later.

I'd like to be his friend again, someday. Right now, though, its still a pretty sore area.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

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Originally posted by Banora Then I mailed him a gift for his birthday a few months later. I'd like to be his friend again, someday. Right now, though, its still a pretty sore area.

If a girl I haven't spoken to in a while sent me a birthday gift, I would be a little wary, no matter how close we were. I guess two months is not that long to not talk, yet still. That's just me though. I don't expect gifts from people unless I'm REALLY close to them, like see / talk to them multiple times a week.

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Originally posted by Ania_xox A few years ago after a really bad break-up, I made plans with 3 different guys, 3 weekends in a row to prove to myself that I was fully over the past relationship. I met them all online. They were record BAD it was like a fucking sitcom Guy#1 was 6'8 and we went out for ice cream and he kept talking about all the troubles he endures in life because of his height. I swear at one point I thought he was going to cry Guy#2 took me out for coffee and I accidentally spilled something on his new Diesel jeans and he yelled at me. YELLED. In fucking Starbucks and people started staring. Guy#3 seemed fine at first. Small dinner and then went to the movies to see Hostel. Everything was going ok and then when he walked me to my door he whipped out a knife and held it to my face. I fucking screamed and he started laughing hysterically. He thought it would be funny scaring the shit out of me because of all the stabbing that goes in in the movie. I swear whenever I think about that month, it seems surreal.

1 and 2 sound like they just have some issues. 3 is definitely crazy.

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Originally posted by whiskers If a girl I haven't spoken to in a while sent me a birthday gift, I would be a little wary, no matter how close we were. I guess two months is not that long to not talk, yet still. That's just me though. I don't expect gifts from people unless I'm REALLY close to them, like see / talk to them multiple times a week.

Since we ended on fairly good terms, I figured it was okay (I made sure I asked ALL my male friends for their opinion) and considering it was a small gift, and his birthday, they didn't see any harm.

They also thought it was a good way to 'extend the olive branch'.

See, I have a problem with expressing myself when it comes to caring for people: lovers, parents, friends etc. So I buy them things that they need or want in order to show I care. Thats not to say I am a cold fish. I love to cuddle, and touch, but when it comes to me really expressing how I feel, its hard.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

I dated a girl in high school who had an obsession with Prince. She kept giving me burned Prince cd's. She wore purple almost everyday. Our conversations oddly always led to Prince. To top it off, her parents were ultra-strict. When I'd take her out to the movies or the mall, her mom was always there in the same vicinity. Not with us, but just there, lurking. That lasted a month. When I broke up with her over the phone, she went into her closet and started crying hysterically. I was kind of like..."wtf...?" Unfortunately, we went to the same very small high school (only 20 graduating students), and so the next year, I had a chemistry class with her, and she sat right behind. Constantly hurled insults at me until I just turned around in the middle of class, and in front of everyone asked, "Can you stop being a stupid little bitch and shut the fuck up?" That seemed to do the trick.

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Originally posted by whiskers No, not true. And that's not really crazy, until she starts calling you all the time, asking you where you've been, with whom; starts checking all of your facebook pictures and comments and questioning you and giving you shit about them. THAT'S crazy.

My ex flipped out when she found out I had myspace, first she made me delete every girl on my friends list and then she asked me to delete the entire profile. Sad thing is that is about a 3 out of 10 on the crazy things she did scale.


Yeah....... she was probably the craziest person I've ever met.

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Originally posted by whiskers 1 and 2 sound like they just have some issues. 3 is definitely crazy.

3 might just have a poor sense of humour or he's just really stupid.. it would be way less crazy (not to mention safer) if he pulled out a rubber knife or something..

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I don't think that men and women are SO different - but I think men have more issues than women. And I find it amusing that men think we're SO difficult to figure out... and yet all of you seem to think you HAVE figured it out!

- and yes, clearly if you've been with someone for a few years, you start to recognize patterns and you known them well enough to understand their insecurities or motivations behind their actions.

And I have found in my travels, that men have just as many, if not more issues, than women. And I've dated some fucking CRAZY men. And I see them everywhere.

So the standard that only women can lose their minds, is ridiculous.

no chicks are fucked. heres the thing abt chicks too many drunkin desperate retards have given too much attention to broads. Broads aint shit only good for cookin cleanin and suckin dick and thats it


theres a reason why we are the more dominant gender. Why we are the leaders in this world.

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Originally posted by squirrelly I don't think that men and women are SO different - but I think men have more issues than women. And I find it amusing that men think we're SO difficult to figure out... and yet all of you seem to think you HAVE figured it out! - and yes, clearly if you've been with someone for a few years, you start to recognize patterns and you known them well enough to understand their insecurities or motivations behind their actions. And I have found in my travels, that men have just as many, if not more issues, than women. And I've dated some fucking CRAZY men. And I see them everywhere. So the standard that only women can lose their minds, is ridiculous.

Sarah, the thing is, we're discussing "dating crazy chicks," as the topic says. Banora gets a pass, because her accountant-boyfriend was 1st class crazy. Nobody's implying that there's only "crazy girls" and not men, but, in my opinion, there's more of girls.

Note that no one in this thread has mentioned that either of us "figured you out" and we're not claiming that all women are like that (although there were mentions of all women being crazy). We're talking about psycho women here.

As for your "we're not that difficult to figure out" belief. Let's keep up with the generalizations: you yourselves can't figure yourselves out. In my experience, women do stuff they don't even recognize they do (like use every one of their friends for benefit and without guilt) and when confronted about such behavior, they get very defensive and explode. As for guys, I can't really pass judgment since I have not dated any guys, but in my opinion if a guy is doing something that can be considered bad behavior, he's doing it for a reason, understanding that it's bad. But I really don't want to get into this "man vs. women" debate, because it's not the point of the thread.

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Originally posted by Banora See, I have a problem with expressing myself when it comes to caring for people: lovers, parents, friends etc. So I buy them things that they need or want in order to show I care. Thats not to say I am a cold fish. I love to cuddle, and touch, but when it comes to me really expressing how I feel, its hard.

Deeds are more important than words, so don't worry about this.

My ex was a bit similar. I don't think she ever told me she loved me (it was a 3,5 years long relationship btw) but from her actions I knew she cared a lot.

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Originally posted by whiskers Sarah, the thing is, we're discussing "dating crazy chicks," as the topic says. Banora gets a pass, because her accountant-boyfriend was 1st class crazy. Nobody's implying that there's only "crazy girls" and not men, but, in my opinion, there's more of girls. Note that no one in this thread has mentioned that either of us "figured you out" and we're not claiming that all women are like that (although there were mentions of all women being crazy). We're talking about psycho women here. As for your "we're not that difficult to figure out" belief. Let's keep up with the generalizations: you yourselves can't figure yourselves out. In my experience, women do stuff they don't even recognize they do (like use every one of their friends for benefit and without guilt) and when confronted about such behavior, they get very defensive and explode. As for guys, I can't really pass judgment since I have not dated any guys, but in my opinion if a guy is doing something that can be considered bad behavior, he's doing it for a reason, understanding that it's bad. But I really don't want to get into this "man vs. women" debate, because it's not the point of the thread.

Sara not Sarah, bozo.

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