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| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
I've known most of my guy friends longer than I've been with my bf, and I've not always been in a relationship. When my bf and I split for 2 years, only 1 of my buddies tried anything. Believe me, I can pretty much guarantee the majority of my guy friends think of me as a dude. The ones who would fuck me have never hesitated to verbalize it. |
i don't doubt your relationships with others being that i'm not you, or one of your close guy friends, but i'm sure the thought has passed by their heads on more than one occasion. whether they act upon it or mention it is a whole other ball of wax.
| quote: | Originally posted by Arbiter
Calling it impossible is a definite overstatement, but I can see why some people might think it a useful one. The world is so full of oblivious people; everyone wants to think they are the exception to the general rule. Most aren't--that's why it's the general rule. But try telling them that and see how far it gets you (or don't, if you value your time.)
Of course, trying to take away that wiggle room will probably help dispel such delusions only rarely, since those in denial can just reject your claim, citing themselves as the exception which proves it false. What's really great is that these same people, if and when they finally realize their friendships weren't what they thought, will be the very people who then believe it is entirely impossible. To them, if they're not among the exceptions, then there must be no exceptions. This process of masturbatory rationalization is both extremely transparent and highly amusing once you develop an eye for it. That's why I prefer to sit back and enjoy the show rather than trying to dispel anyone's misconceptions. |
fascinating thoughts on that, i see what you mean- and i had the same experience when talking to a person about the topic earlier in class, that of being the exception to the rule. people are egoists, what can i say.
again, is it possible for males and females to be "just friends"? sure, it happens all the time. however, is it possible for males and females to be friends without the obstacle of sexual attraction/tension? severely doubtful. unless that bitch is nasty.
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