Originally posted by elFreak
let me rephrase actually, because my comment was a bit harsh.
i don't like getting personal, but the issue hits a nerve with me big time.
My father was an uncontrollable drunk who used my mom as a punching bag(guess what, he was not like that before he had kids. My mother would justify this by saying he could be helped and stayed with it because of her 3 kids. BIG FUCKING mistake. That line of thinking lead to an escalation, exposing her children to it. I grew up as a nasty teenager who got into trouble because of it. (see fights every week, i went to 7 different high schools)
My mother knows she was a dummy now, and we don't pity her for it. Part of what helped us all get over our issues was calling her out on it. My sisters are strong independant women because of that, and i did not follow in my father's footsteps. Had the tie been cut the first time it happened, all of this unnecessary hardship would of been avoided.
In the end all that counts is that he is a homeless person who has ruined his own life without anyone that cares about him. Maybe if he had seen the door earlier he could have woken up and saved himself from this fate. I have no pity for men like this, not even for my own blood.
/rant.
Jay, I completely understand where you're coming from on that - and I'm sorry you had to deal with that growing up. I see what you mean about her repeatedly going back to him - and I agree with you. The minute people actually found out about the abuse (in your example, it would clearly be you and your sisters who called out your mom) and I got called out on it... it was a little more eye opening.
May-05-2009 22:25
Renzo
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I feel like Danny Tanner is gonna come in at any second now and give us all a hug.
May-05-2009 22:28
yukii
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no, wasn't like anything you put it as. but i have no reason to explain myself bc that's something that's in my past & i don't talk about it.
i believe a relationship is based on honesty, trust, and respect- that's what i have found now, so i don't need to worry about this idiotic bullshit or sucking dick. if k didn't like it then im sure he could have gone back to his stripper ex who did give him head. seems like you give more of a fuck than we do about him getting head so why don't you go stuff your throat like you know best.
May-05-2009 22:31
Silky Johnson
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Bahaha, you're such a dumb cunt.
May-05-2009 22:33
tubularbills
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i like these kinda threads, cause in the end it all ends up like this:
quote:
person A
I HAVE AN OPINION
WELL YOU ARE WRONG
quote:
person A
BUT I HAVE SOURCES
BUT THEY ARE NOT VALID
quote:
person A
YOUR AN IDIOT
YOU SPELLED YOU'RE WRONG
quote:
person A
SO NOW YOU'RE A GRAMMAR NAZI
YOUR OPINION IS STILL WRONG
quote:
person A
I'M GONNA GO DO MY BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND
SUCK HIS COCK/HER VAG FOR ME
quote:
person A
OMG YOUR GROSS
YOU SPELLED YOU'RE WRONG AGAIN
etc...etc...
May-05-2009 22:33
Silky Johnson
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WTF are you talking about? We're pretty much all in agreement here.
May-05-2009 22:35
SuspicionVandit
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Anyone here deduce yet that trancers don't really give a shit about Yukii's meat deficiency, and people who don't listen to trance obsessively do?
I'm not saying
i'm just saying.
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May-05-2009 22:37
tubularbills
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Originally posted by jennypie
WTF are you talking about? We're pretty much all in agreement here.
BITCH DON'T MAKE ME SLAP YOU
May-05-2009 22:37
PressPLay
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Anyone ever see the old movie "Internal Affairs" made in 1990 with Richard Gere and Andy Garcia? It was on TV just last weekend. There's this intense scene where Garcia's character smacks the shit out of his wife played by Nancy Travis in a public place. It's ironic because he's the "good cop" LOL trying to the nail the bad cop(Gere). It may be a stereotype, but I wouldn't be surprised at all if the most notorious wife-beaters out of them all were cops.
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Originally posted by jennypie
This is about abuse towards women. I know that when a woman gets abused (physically, emotionally) it's not her fault, and people always say the man who does such a thing is sick...but what about the woman who stays in/seeks out abusive relationships? Clearly she has some kind of sickness as well, no?
Ya they do, abandonment issues, abusive past... Its all things that need to be treated.
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Its all things that need to be treated.
..by a good beating AMIRITE?
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May-05-2009 22:43
Slylee
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girls who stay in abusive relatoinships got it at home when they were little. or they watched mommy get it. like i said, it's a vicious cycle. but at some point in your adult life, you have to be able to break the cycle and take responsibility for yourself and stop using your past abuse experiences as a scapegoat and an excuse to stay with an asshole.
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Originally posted by notelfreak
man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone
. My mother would justify this by saying he could be helped and stayed with it because of her 3 kids. BIG FUCKING mistake. That line of thinking lead to an escalation, exposing her children to it. I grew up as a nasty teenager who got into trouble because of it. (see fights every week, i went to 7 different high schools)
