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I went through a really nasty phase myself, it just happened to be when I was partying a lot. My friends and I would joke around and start lobbing nasty shots at each other, all in good fun, and it was fine for a while... it was really fun actually. Then it started to get out of control. What we all came to realize was that when you put yourself in that mindset for a while, it becomes who you actually are. When I saw that in myself, I just said this isn't who I want to be, and I cut it way back.
I still like to bust out a depraved comment once in a while, it's fun. But I try to do it around people that I know can take it in the right way. I can't stand people who are fake and happy all the time either, but that doesn't mean that you can't be genuine and positive most of the time. The two aren't mutually exclusive at all. Being positive isn't a sign of weakness, it takes a lot of strength to hold to it when there's so much fighting against it. The truly weak thing to do is just let the nastiness fly as a gut reaction.
My 2 cents.
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