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Re: ex girlfriends. ex boyfriends
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we've all been through this, all been hurt and healed. shit like that blah blah blah. but i just need some opinions from the ladies real quick. and guys if you've dated this type of woman yet.
so ive been going out this this girl for 3 months. not that long i know. she broke up with me last night. whatever. i mean im hurt but ill be aight. anyway long story short she was a manic depressive with high anxiety who was raped when she was 16... and yeah i only figured this out last week.. she just told me. soooo i need an opinion here guys/gals has anyone ever dated someone like that? because honestly it explains a lot to me now, her mood swings, her weed smoking habbits and just over all bug out moments ive been through with her. ive never dated a girl who had problems like this have any of you? and im bein serious . is it hard to maintain a relationship with that much extra stress, bagage, emotional problems ....
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From the way you describe it she's making it sound like her past is the reason for you two breaking up? An excuse, a cry for sympathy or "playing the victim" all seem plausible. Everyone has issues but if she's announcing this to you only now - and using it as a crutch in her life - then it's not your job to stick around and "fix" her.
However, I guess there's really no perfect time for her to tell you about what happened - maybe she feels she's damaged goods and wanted to see your reaction. If you run, it doesn't matter (since she broke up with you) - but - if you decide to still try & work things out then she feels more secure with you knowing this about her. Stick to your boundaries though, you have your own life to live too.
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