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| quote: | Originally posted by PivotTechno
Sooo, he's made this shit up after 10 years of administering psychotherapy to hundreds of people. What are your credentials?
And again, if you actually took the time to read what he says, he doesn't advocate blaming people for their own shit lives then simply walking away with a smug grin, he states that NOT blaming the source of your trauma for your present condition is a form of very damaging denial, and that the anger that accompanies the resentment toward to perpetrator needs to be brought to surface, allowed to transmute to grief (which is all anger is in its most base form, and for some stupid reason a relatively taboo expression of emotion in modern society) in order for real healing to take place.
You seem like a pretty angry individual yourself. 'Nuff caps and arbitrary swearing leads me to believe so. Are you happy the way you are? No resentment toward the folks and how they treated you as a child whatsoever? No addictive behaviour that you wish you could control or eliminate altogether? If so, I commend you, you've obviously worked through your baggage quite thoroughly. If not, then you're exactly the kind of person Mackler's referring to and you're going to carry on seeing what you want to see, and nothing I, or anyone else says is going to convince you otherwise.
Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to go put some motherfucking BASIL CLONES in water. Peace. |
Well, I am a psychology major, but I am by no means at a point in which I could authoritatively argue against his "research". However, I am much more likely to believe in thousands of doctors and scientists who know that anti-psychotics work on their patients than some guy who effectively discredits himself by making the statements that he does.
I personally don't think blaming someone for the shitty things that have happened is a way to self heal. You need to acknowledge that you have control over your own life and move on and work toward making your life the best it can be. However, I would agree that in terms of abuse etc. people need to also acknowledge that they didn't deserve it and that they are the victim, not the perpetrator.
Contrary to your belief, I am not an angry individual. I do however, get highly aggravated at people who make statements like "medications don't help people with mental illnesses" when it could potentially send the wrong message to someone who may really need help. I feel that I can say with authority that medications have seriously helped people who have suffered from mental illness, and I know this from personally knowing people who have benefited from them.
No, I have no addictive behaviour, no unresolved issues, and no, I do not hold resentment toward my parents. I have accepted what has happened in my past, moved on and have decided to take control over my own destiny and work toward a better life. Holding on to grudges and pointing fingers will not do anything positive, nor will blaming my parents for my personal downfalls. I need to take ownership of my own life and my decisions and behaviours.
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like arbiter's ignored posts said, the idea that the "anti-panacea" could be traced to a unitary childhood moment is simply ridiculous.
