Well, it's all a matter of being smart and not falling in love with someone once you meet em. You gotta date a lot and whichever you like the best then see if it works. If it doesn't work, move on.

love is certainly worth the risk... even if you got rejected like i was ....

love is worth the risk....but only if you are comfortable with yourself and your self-esteem before falling too deep into something; love can be very dangerous

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Originally posted by AnotherWay83 if the kind of love u talk abt is indeed such a great feeling, and everybody wants to fall in love, why is it so difficult for so many of us to find that in a relationship, and maintain it? and if she loved u so much, she would've put up with u no matter what...but she didn't, proving that the love u talk abt is just a delusion

nah it wasn't a delusion. For the few years that we were together it was like heaven. Every day I felt so good that I was alive. She did stick with me through thick and thin and was willing to put up with me no matter what.

There were many reasons that led to our breakup. Basically it had everything to do with me not being able to give her the full commitment that she wanted. I was really immature at the time and didn't realize what I had.

One night we had an argument over something ridiculously juvenile and that night I ended up cheating on her with a friend of mine . I'll never forget it because that night would change my life forever.

I fell into a deep depression for the longest time, because this was a girl that I would give up my life for and I hated myself for doing what I did. I know that she would've never done it to me and even if I told her what I've done, I know that in time she would've forgive me but I was such a coward because I could never tell her and break her heart like that. I just couldn't forgive myself.

I've always been a dog and cheated on some of past gfs before but it never affected me because they never meant so much to me as this girl. She really did showed me what love was, and for the first time I can safely say that I was truly in love. The guilt was eating me up inside.

I hated myself so much after that. She thought of me as her 'knight in shining armour', but that was far from the truth. I didn't have the guts to tell her what I did, because I just couldn't bear to break her heart. At this time, my life was so messed up. She had a few scholarships to some universities and might have to leave the city. She even had opportunities to go to Harvard university in the U.S. so I was really happy for her. She wanted to stay here for me and that was when I thought long and hard and decided I should let her go and break up with her.

I know now that the ultimate act of love is sacrifice. I didn't want her to give up such good opportunities for a jerk like me. I just didn't deserve her love. Sometimes when you really love someone, you just got to let them go.

She was in shock when I told her that we should part and for the next year or so it was so heartbreaking because she tried everything to salvage our relationship, she had no clue why I wanted to break up, we had the perfect relationship. I had to be cruel to her so she'd understand and finally let me go. At times she'd call me up in the middle of the night and threaten to kill herself. It was all really bad. I still remember the day she broke down in tears when I told her we should break up, that image will haunt my mind forever

This was the worst time in my life. I became very distant to people and even when I was with other girls I couldn't open up to them. How could I let the love of my life go? and if I can't make it with her, how could I make it with anyone?

I've grown as a person a lot since then. She's really happy now and has a really great new bf who treats her really good, so I'm really happy for her. Sometimes when you really love someone you want to see them happy, even if it's not with you. I know it's hard for some people to think this way like I do, I'm heartbroken that we're not together but seeing her happy makes me feel so good

I really do believe that true love does exist and it's definately worth it.

well trancewave i think the love u're talking abt was real, because it wasn't the 'romantic' wushy-mushy love that many ppl. think is 'love'...my main point is that 'romantic' love doesn't exist, only one kind of love, the one that involves sacrifice like u've shown

i hope u find another girl like that

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Originally posted by KLINGKLANG77 is it better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all...? that is the question... my answer- it depends upon what you have lost...

I would say loved than lost because you actually KNOW what you have had and will have again in the future. To not have loved at all you are COMPLETELY missing out on that experience (whether it is initially good or bad). To me that is 100000000x worse than experiencing the loss is missing out on even the POSSIBILITY to love.
So yeah...it's how I look at it...

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Originally posted by Trancewave Sometimes when you really love someone you want to see them happy, even if it's not with you. I know it's hard for some people to think this way like I do, I'm heartbroken that we're not together but seeing her happy makes me feel so good

wow that above is such a great statement. i love my ex and always will. but seeing that above made me realise that if he is happy, i can feel happy that he is happy, as he is married now and i wish him the best. i just often wonder how he is, and how he really is feeling, b/c i know that if i am thinking about him i often wonder if he thinks of me...

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Originally posted by AnotherWay83 well trancewave i think the love u're talking abt was real, because it wasn't the 'romantic' wushy-mushy love that many ppl. think is 'love'...my main point is that 'romantic' love doesn't exist, only one kind of love, the one that involves sacrifice like u've shown i hope u find another girl like that

I think you're right in a sense. Love is a strong word and most people just toss it around like it doesn't mean anything.

I have a friend who tells me he falls in love with every girl he's ever been with (even if they're together for less than a week ) WTF???? Poor guy gets his heartbroken so easily like you'll never believe So what he does is bury his sorrow by drinking, and then he becomes even more pathetic when he's drunk.

Love is the greatest feeling there is. Until your heart gets broken when you realize the other person does not love you anymore. All of a sudden your world comes crushing down and you have no idea what went wrong or how to fix it.
It happened to me recently and even though we are still together our lives and what we use to call "love" is never be the same again.

love and relationship takes lots of work and patience between two people. When it works its the best feeling but when it breaks down its the worst feeling a person ever feels. I unfortunately found out but now that a little time has past its a bit easier to handle and learned from it, so I wont make the same mistakes again.

love yourself first before you love someone else.

bah.
love is too much work.

in the end you will always be with yourself and yourself only.
i dont believe in living together til death and stuff.

love is for weak people.
just love everybody instead, much better.

happiness seems to be loneliness.....

loving everybody is like a hell...i'm fed up!

right now, i hate many ppl. others, i love....me and my gf are open to each other about all things, and we love each other...right now i would say yes it's worth it....

but one day, in every realationship (included my own), the excitement ends and u end up as friends...some ends up as enemies...

it's so damn simple when u first think of it!