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Originally posted by Aviston I realized during this relationship that I, for one, can handle some cheating. I guess I just denote the difference between something beautiful that happens between two people who care about each other, and something physical that can happen between two people mutually attracted to one another. I do think that cheating is wrong, and should be avoided at all costs, but I also understand that things happen. Every time I cheated it wasn't because I cared about the person I was dating less, or that I didn't want to be with them. It was just something stupid that I did physically with another person. When I got cheated on, I looked at it in the same light, and realized that it just didn't bother me that much. I agree that it would be different if she was spending alot of time with this person, then it would be some sort of a mental connection too, or if she was cheating on me like every couple of months. But to just have my partner have a one night fling with someone? I can handle that. Is it for everyone? No, definately not. I guess what you need to ask yourself is if you are saddened more by the thought of what he and you did, or by the thought of not having him in your life anymore. If it's the latter, then by all means, try and give it a chance.

i definitely take the same view on cheating because shit happens. its how you handle it after. last night i cried a bit think of him and the fucking slut together. just thinking if he said the smae things to her as to me and if they did other things like hug all night and shit like that. but i know that things like that kill me so i have stopped. i definitely can handle cheating because originally i was the one that cheated (i only kissed another guy not slept with them) and i know how it feels. but that just made me realize that i loved my guy more. so whatever he realized after his cheating, i don't know yet because he is finding it hard to talk about it. but you have to know that we are eight hours apart and its not something that you can discuss over the phone.

Want to get back at him................ Ignore him. If what you had meant so little to him that he cheated then why bother. By reacting like that you give him power by letting him know how much it hurt you. Cut him out of your life. Bang. He dosen't exisit. I know that your hurt by the asshole but as a guy let me tell ya as long as we know that we bug the shit out of ya we feel superior. ie Look at the crazy bitch, she still so hung up on me blah blah blah...........It's when you ignore us that it drives us nuts. You learned somthing from this relationship that you can take with ya for others good and bad. So screw him you sound like a cool girl and I'm sure over time you'll meet someone who will treat ya like gold. Also chicks that scrap are so unattractive........


Cheers

P.S Maybe you should get away from Ottawa for the weekend and come to toronto to party with your friends.....Just to do somthing away from home..............

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess would kicking the shit out of the chick help me get over my sadness??? and yeah i can take her no problem. there is no chance that she could hurt me in anyway. fucken bitch.

haha, right on dude...but only if she knew you were his gf. don't forget to kick the shit outta him too. oh and baby e aren't u like 15??? what are you doin with guys like that? stay away from them:P oh and i have something else to add to this discussion: since we are all net junkies and are on the topic of cheating, how do you guys feel about online shit? like if your guy or girl was emailing/chatting back and forth with someone else all the time. or if u found emails with pictures and intimate conversations? just curious. my opinion is that it is the same. if you are chatting with someone constantly and talking about inappropriate things, it's cheating (well not technically, but bad enough) in my book. a lot of people might disagree, but i think it would be different if they found out that their guy/girl was constantly chatting with this other guy/girl and exchanging pics and talking about sex and stuff like that. also there are a lot of men out there (and women too!) that have these online affairs that last a long time and they go and meet the person they've been chatting with and emailing for months or even years...that is worst case scenerio. it is very common these days and sad.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by cdn_trance_boy So screw him you sound like a cool girl and I'm sure over time you'll meet someone who will treat ya like gold. Also chicks that scrap are so unattractive........ Cheers P.S Maybe you should get away from Ottawa for the weekend and come to toronto to party with your friends.....Just to do somthing away from home..............

actually i'm not in ottawa and that's how everything started. i moved to this shithole town and he stayed there and we faught all the time because long distance is so bad and a lot of other shit happened and then it happened. but i and ignoring it right now. and yeah, toronto would be great right now. max graham tomorrow. lucky bastards. but ottawa gets max every two months for eight hours straight!!

slylee. i definitely wanna put her head through a wall. she fucking knew that he had a gf. but anyway internet shit. happened to me too!!! not as bad as real cheting though. there are soo many cases in this little town i live in now because people spend a lot of time onthe internet because there is nothing else to do so people have left their wives and husbands for internet flings. what a joke.

Face it we live in a society where the majority of people are never happy with what they have. We always looking for the next best thing whether it is materially or in a realtionship. Searching for somthing they can't find. That's why I love trance for no matter how crazy the rest of the world becomes or my life I turn the music on and become at peace with myself. For that little while everything seems right.

I have never been unfaithful to my imaginary woman. I do think, however, that should I ever desire the romantic touch of another woman, I would most likely weave her into a fun-filled threesome. And should that woman of my desire have a significant other (be it a male, female, or possbibly simian creature) I would probably be willing to engage in orgiastic group sex.

dOOd you are one strange piece of work

haha, no he's not, he's just a typical horny guy. lol

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

stereoprincess u wanna make up w/ him and beat her ass. can we say typical female reaction?? lol sorry but i dont see the logic in that.. if u are willing to forgive him then u should be willing to forgive her.. hes the one who had the commitment to u.

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It's just..low. Can't you just admit what you have done, before it's all too late?

Some just say "it happened". How the fuk is that? I just can't look after another girl on the street when I'm hooked. My mind, body or whatever doesn't need that. But some just do it like a sport. Seducing girls, more and more (or the other way around) just to count...it's so low! I can't understand it. I mean, we pretend of being superior beeings, not chimps (not even!). But we don't act like everytime!

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hmmmm...well it depends on da girl...most girls who gives a toss..but if u really like her then i would NEVR do it.theres a girl i like and hopefully ill get a chance with her soon..i would not even think of cheatin on her...if u feel 4 some1 in a speacial way u wont cheat.theyll be 2 speacial 2 u 4 u 2 be able 2. so if i was cheatd on i would dump her..she obviously doesnt feel the way u feel bout her

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