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Re: Re: how to spice up your sex life?
| quote: | Originally posted by lücid
that sounds like a girl who has lost all sexual/physical interest.
the emotional spark might still be there, but it sounds like she is becoming really bored and disinterested with the sexual part of your relationship. this shouldn't happen after 5 months.
in my experience, when this happens there isn't much you can do to fix it. for most girls, sexual attraction is almost entirely mental... it's either there or it isn't, and no amount of toys and tricks and kinky stuff will make her desire for sex with you any stronger. if anything, she will just feel forced and pressured into it and avoid it even more.
but here's what i think you should do... don't make any moves on her, don't touch her sexually, don't try to have sex, don't do anything that makes her think you want her. see how long this lasts before she either a) says something to you about it, or b) rapes you. |
whoa!! De Javu!!! I hear the same thing, as told by my best friend's GF when I was 19!!!
I was seeing a girl for 2.5 years. First year - NO SEX (e.g penetration) - just heavy petting, making out, etc. She had all kinds of emotional issues (divorced family, self-conscious, blah blah blah - the works). I had to wear dark pants all the time to ensure my blue balls were not very visible through light fabric. I put up with this crap for long time. Finally...
I ended up following my friend's advise and made no moves. I ended up waiting A FUCKING MONTH!!!! Finally, we're at my x's place, no one home, she jumps on me and starts making out. I'm all aroused, so i go fucking buck wild and all of the sudden, she stops me. I ask, what's up? she says - I am afraid you'll rape me!!! That's 2.5 years after seeing each other!!!!!!!!  So I realize it's all about fucking my mind and control, so I tell her that it's over and walk out.
That was that... Funny enough, I ran into her few days ago at my kid's daycare. Her kids and my son are in the same group. 
Nothing but quick 'hello' - not even a sting of flashback. felt... empty.  oh well.
life goes on and it's too short to waste your time with frigid c*nts.
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