quote: | Originally posted by Ian
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ok i kinda lol'd at that
quote: | Originally posted by squirrelly
Ouch Will, that sucks. Looks like you didn't know before that your dad left her for another woman, huh? When did you find out?
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this is actually how i found out that my folks were splitting:
i was in Chicago visiting them after I had graduated college. we had my graduation party w/ both sides of the family and everything, and a i had a few nights left in town.
well, the night before i was supposed to drive back to Iowa to collect all the things i was bringing with me to Active Duty, my dad never came home.
So the morning after, i wake leave my mom (we shed a tear). and i called up my dad at work and said, "hey, i'm leaving to go start my career.....soo...bye?" and he says this weird sob story about how he got drunk at a work party and wouldn't be able to drive home.
so i drive back to Iowa - the next day, pack up all my shit; pretty much get ready to leave and my mom sent me an email saying dad had left her; then my dad called me and said he was leaving.
So here we are: i just left my mom, my dad just left my mom, and i'm now living in Montgomery Alabama (first assignment/TDY before i moved to Shreveport).
I never really knew what was going on at home before all this, because i was at school out at Iowa State. my folks had a rough patch when i was in high school (to the point i almost ran away); but both said that things were good while i was at college.
then my mom had her surgery, never recovered, and apparently "in sickness and in health" didn't mean anything anymore to my dad. they were supposed to go to Ireland for their 25th wedding anniversary. that was cancelled because of my mom's surgery. i guess shortly afterwards, my dad started "losing the love" and found it in an employee at work.
quote: | Originally posted by Joss Weatherby
btw my parents havent remarried... my dad and his gf bought a house like... gosh, 10 years ago, they have been going out for like 12 years. They are both lawyers, though she is just a lowly county prosecutor that does DUI and other traffic infractions. She doesn't want kids and he doesn't want anymore, they just hob-knob and do the social BS that my mom hated.
My mom has had a couple boyfriends since, but never any that lasted that long. Kinda feel bad for her, but whatever, she is more driven by her education than any sort of romantic pursuits. I think I got my apathy for relationships from her. |
my dad is now marrying this chick he's known for about 4 years now (keep in mind, my folks officially split 3 years ago...). my mom's still seeing a therapist for all this. she'll never remarry; and chances are she won't even ever date. her life is too complicated that she doesn't want to involve someone else. plus she's a hermit and everything scares her; so she barely goes outside.
you all want to know the kicker on top of all things?
if my mom doesn't get a sweet deal from the divorce (which, last i heard, she isn't); she won't be able to live at the ghetto piece of shit place she lives in now (the one my dad and her moved into and then he left like 7 months later); she doesn't have much family left in chicago and she can't work (Again because of chronic pain from surgery she didn't recover from -- it wasn't a botched surgery, so she can't sue the DR, its just her body scarred really bad internally), so guess where's she's moving? yeah, in with me.
awesome.
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