the whole attitude like, "well if u get divorced, then bla bla bla" so non-challantly, like it's more of a "when" and not "if" is disturbing to me. no wonder the divorce rate is so high. it's sad.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

It's still afact though. I'd rather be prepared for it & then not have to deal with that than not think about it and get slapped in the face by it.

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sorta like Clarance Worley's mentality in True Romance.


It's better to have a gun and not need it, than to not have a gun and need it.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

...kinda...different purpose, though.

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you're just a bunch of idealists. who cares if you get divoriced? its not like the end of the world. if you get 5-10 good years its worth it. it be like saying you should stay with your first bf for the rest of your life even if some where along the line you fall out of love. just listen to yourselves. you sound ridiculous.

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Originally posted by igottaknow who cares if you get divoriced? its not like the end of the world. if you get 5-10 good years its worth it.

absolutly... its worth the pain (to some extent) and the money (easily, that shit can be made back) knowing you got 5-10 years of happy marriage in life...

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bah. That just means you're either bad at reading people or bad at maintaining a relationship.

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Originally posted by RandomGirl Isn't it kind of stupid to plan for divorce? If you think you're going to get divorced, why get married at all? You're already setting the marriage up for failure by assuming that it wont work out. No wonder the divorce rate is through the roof.

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Originally posted by Slylee the whole attitude like, "well if u get divorced, then bla bla bla" so non-challantly, like it's more of a "when" and not "if" is disturbing to me. no wonder the divorce rate is so high. it's sad.

Woah... that was freaky!

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Originally posted by Inconspicuous It's still afact though. I'd rather be prepared for it & then not have to deal with that than not think about it and get slapped in the face by it.

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I would probably get a joint account w my man w just our extra spending money, just to let him feel special or as "one" or whatever, but any other money will be something only I can touch

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Originally posted by Azia keep everything separate. weigh the pros and cons btwn separate or joint accounts and you'll see. think in terms of if u split, and if you don't think in those terms, that's just being in denial and dumb.

As mentioned earlier, seperate accounts mean nothing if you divorce... the funds in those accounts will be added to the collective net worth and distributed equally (in community property jurisdictions... so most of the US, Canada, and most of Europe).

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Originally posted by RickyM you're just a shit version of Moral Hazard. At least he knows what he's talking about.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN lol, i love it when moral feels the need to lay the smack down

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Originally posted by Azia +1 I would probably get a joint account w my man w just our extra spending money, just to let him feel special or as "one" or whatever, but any other money will be something only I can touch

So what you're saying is that you would a) not trust your husband with money and, b) not want to be accountable to him regarding money. If that is the case then you shouldn't be marrying that person. Marriage is a total partnership that requires trust, anything less then that is a false marriage and you're right to assume it will end in divorce as you have already set the ground work for it.

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Originally posted by RickyM you're just a shit version of Moral Hazard. At least he knows what he's talking about.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN lol, i love it when moral feels the need to lay the smack down

Always keep separate accounts but also have a joint account for joint expenses like the mortgage, utilities etc. This way you can easily keep a track of spending and not have to determine who's spending what where.

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