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Oh, I just think it's meaningless, and that the terms are hollow.
People are only loyal as long as it's in their best interests--ie. not very loyal at all. If you think your friends are "loyal" and will always defend you in conversations, always be entirely honest with you, etc. etc... I say, look to groups of people where loyalty is a matter of life and death. Look at street gangs, look at organized crime.
Those guys literally know they could have a death sentence on them for stabbing each other in the back, but when push comes to shove and its their neck on the line, and they're facing either hard jail-time or ratting out their friends, they always snitch. (At least in my past time working in a State's Attorney's office). I've seen Ukranian mobsters rat out their friends rather than face a few years for something "small" like untaxed cigarette trafficking. And small-time dealers (mainly weed, E, oxy, etc), oh man, those guys love ratting their friends out. Those "Stop Snitching" and "Warna Brotha" shirts, they crack me up.
It's the same way with people's friends, even when the stakes are much lower. Loyalty, trust, all these things only last until your friends can get a better deal.
I realize I sound like, 1) someone who's a huge cynic, and 2) someone's who just got really burned by a friend, but I just think people should be realistic.
Be a good person, treat your friends right, but don't freak out if they say something bad behind your back or start hanging out with other people, it's just human nature!
So that's why I don't like it when people list "trust" or "loyalty" as super important qualities to look for. I just think they're lying to themselves (since they know they'd be disloyal if the situation was right), and lying to everyone else (since they should expect some disloyalty from time to time.)
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