Registered: Dec 2004
Location: Been Pullin out since '93 OCTA#9 / LATA #57
well post away.
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Jun-01-2008 06:10
SuspicionVandit
Rapper
Registered: Nov 2005
Location: 127.0.0.1
make her feel comfortable.
Burn some incense, light a candle, give her some red high heels, put on a Pikachu mask and a pink oven mitt.
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Jun-01-2008 06:12
elFreak
Blood Diamonds and Salsa
Registered: Feb 2008
Location: With Juan Pachanga Eating Tacos. Ah Ha Si Mi Gusta.
Registered: Apr 2007
Location: on the midnight street
Did you ever consider that you both are making the whole thing totally robotic? Sex is not like assembling a bicycle - i.e. this goes here and that goes there and you need this type of nut and that type of bolt
If she's focusing *so much* on what her vajeen is and is not doing "properly" then she will never achieve orgasm. I can't imagine that you're enjoying yourself either.
You both just need to RELAKS and stop treating it like this grand mission. Being so young, I don't think you can both expect yourselves to have porn star sex.
This whole "OK WE'RE GONNA GET IT THIS TIME! 1-2-3 GO!" mindset is taking all the passion out of your sexual activity.
The most powerful foreplay (for me anyway) is never physical - like this "hand/head" business that you were talking about. Unplanned sex is the best. Or after a really heated argument. Or if you're out to dinner with some stuffy people and all you're thinking about is coming home and fucking eachother's brains out.
The random factor is so powerful. I don't know how well I am articulating this, but I hope you get what I'm saying.
Plus - just be super confident (hard right now, I know, b/c you probably feel like it's your fault that she can't cream herself)
Also - let her do lots of crazy shit to you. She'll probably get super turned on watching you get super turned on - as opposed to you both plowing away on Mission Impossible #17.
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oh well, different strokes different vaginas
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Jun-01-2008 15:48
Project-K
JD ėtictsile
Registered: Feb 2007
Location: Laval, Quebec
quote:
Originally posted by Ania_xox
this goes here and that goes there and you need this type of nut and that type of bolt
I like it when you talk dirty.
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Jun-01-2008 15:59
tubularbills
Max Power!
Registered: Apr 2003
Location: Middle of fucking nowhere
quote:
Originally posted by Chris Crossland
Can she get herself off? If not her fuckin bean is broken.
Quit fuckin around and stick it in her ass, prudes.
Fucking skanks!
Jun-01-2008 16:00
Krypton
83.798 g/6.022x10^23
Registered: Nov 2003
Location: Texas
Re: Question about Sex - seriously.
quote:
Originally posted by r5a
ok. so. ive been with this girl about two months now. we've been enjoying as it has been very casual and stress-free and it's been working great, no fights or anything like that. shes a very shy and sometimes self-conscious and very little experienced in sexual activities.
anyway, just this week we started fooling around a little bit beyond makeouts and spoonings to 3rd base (hand/head) and she apparently doesn't feel anything. we've only done it twice so far and both times were a fail she claims not to feel anything, literally anything. no pleasure what-so-ever.
I have been trying all sorts of techniques and stuff that have worked on previous exs and sent them into violent shakings, combining hand/head ect. the works. shes even tried to help me find her spots and that doesn't go over to well so im really not sure if it's me being a total suck and should start reading books or her and she has something.
its not like im jumping right into giving her hand/head there is a good solid 30 minutes of pre-game before taking it both ways (pretty intense & soft and gentle makeouts and groping). and we are both in the mood.
at first i thought it was that she was feeling uncomfortable or shy about it or was worried about stuff (she had heard about previous things ive done) so we spent a good hour talking about everything before hand and laughing and being really open about it all to make it less awkward which helped somewhat and i still ask her if shes okay with all of this and she tells me yeah she's fine and not worried/shy about it.
is she simply just not ready for all of this? (keep in mind she has had no experience in this before and is still a virgin, same age as me - 18) or is there something else at play here that i'm not seeing?
please help. shes getting upset and starting to think there is something wrong with her, while i have to assure her its not her and probably me and i suck goat dick.
she claims not to feel anything, literally anything. no pleasure what-so-ever. 
