My first reaction is similar to Theresas really. I mean is your BF even that worried? IF it was me I'd be thinking "yuss let off!" .

But really if she is your best friend although this is a slight against both you and your BF you should take one day out of your life to support her on her big day and give an easy run at possibly one of the most stressful days of her life.

However if you think she's been that terrible about it then maybe it's time to call it a day on the friendship (which seems so sad for just a day). IMHO

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Originally posted by Ian Sara I wouldn't even think about it that way. Whatever reasons they have, if she's a friend at all, your happiness should not have anything to do with it.

No no, I should think about it that way. EVERYONE sees that she's angry I'm happy (since for years I was UNhappy in a bad relationship). She flat out told me "I know I'm supposed to be your best friend, but I will NEVER be happy for you just because you're happy yourself". Even my mother can tell she's trying to do ANY little thing to try and bring a riff between us.

And he doesn't really care that he became UNinvited, because he can't stand the girl. Says she's so negative she makes it hard to like her. But that, is not the point. When we've already gotten the invitations with our names on it, to then turn around and say "oh nevermind, the groom decided nay." is ridiculous.

Yeesh if shes like that then ditch her.

Sounds like she took you stepping down from Maid of Honor as a personal insult despite your situation.

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well, let's see.

I got diagnosed with cancer, and didn't know if A) I was going to be in surgery @ the time of the wedding, and B) if I'd be strong enough to make it through standing through the wedding.

SO yea, I think I had a pretty good fucking excuse.

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Originally posted by squirrelly No no, I should think about it that way. EVERYONE sees that she's angry I'm happy (since for years I was UNhappy in a bad relationship). She flat out told me "I know I'm supposed to be your best friend, but I will NEVER be happy for you just because you're happy yourself". Even my mother can tell she's trying to do ANY little thing to try and bring a riff between us.

then honestly she's no friend and you shouldn't even be thinking of going, regardless of if one or both of you are invited, and wasting money on people like that.

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Originally posted by Ian then honestly she's no friend and you shouldn't even be thinking of going, regardless of if one or both of you are invited, and wasting money on people like that.

100% agree

I went through the same shit about a month ago with one of my good buddies from home. I have known the guy since we were kids, and i have known his (now wife) fiancee for the same ammount of time. I have been dating my current gf for just over 2 years now, and its pretty serious. but we both live 8 hours away from my hometown and as such dont get to go down too much as for the most part my family and friends come visit me here in ottawa because its infinitely more awesome than st thomas. so long story short, my buddy comes up with this half assed idea that unless they had met your significant other, they weren't invited. Usually i would think this is totally uncouth/rude but in their case they are both so cheap they might as well be jewish.

However i then start talking to some of my other buddies and i realize that the best man isnt alowed to bring his gf because the bride had not met her yet, the groom wouldnt let his own sister bring her boyfriend because, and i quote "well i havent met him yet so i dont care about him at all". Since the bride and groom are so tight assed about money (and they have alot more of it than i do, and i certainly never go without) they have never once come up to ottawa to visit me and last time alexa and i went home, they "couldn't afford the time" to go out for a quick lunch with us to meet alexa.

So i was a little pissed, but then i find out our friend who moved out to vancouver (complete other side of the continent) was allowed to bring her BF even tho no one had ever so much as even talked to him let alone meet him.

when i found that out i just said fuck it, called my buddy and said, "listen my girlfriend has something on that weekend that she really needs me there for, since i care alot about her, she takes precedent over your wedding. Best wishes"

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN I have 3 hobbies: gaming, DJing & correcting maladjusted fools on the internet.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN Yeah, I’d like to know what horrible, scarring incident in your childhood turned you into such an ignorant, intellectual-hating philistine?

actually just to add to that story, at the grooms bachelor party. there was six guys (his only guy friends, all of which from highschool) plus his fiancees dad (who knew way too much about how the politics in teh strip club worked) and his cousin.

when you only have 6 good friends, does it really take that much money to fork out 6x15$ for their dates (it was a horribly cheap wedding that took place at the keystone complex in shedden ontario) to put that in perspective, this is the venue that holds the anual tractor pull, and you can rent it for the night for 300 bucks.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN I have 3 hobbies: gaming, DJing & correcting maladjusted fools on the internet.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN Yeah, I’d like to know what horrible, scarring incident in your childhood turned you into such an ignorant, intellectual-hating philistine?

$15 a person! did you have to rent chairs to sit on?

lol

i bet it went down like this

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by narcism is she marrying a jew?

u clearly do not know how jews get down when it comes to weddings, bar mitzvahs and/or family-like celebrations. it's one of the few times where they AREN'T cheap lol

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone