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Personally, I think the only reason we have all these problems with people using sex in place of feelings, or sex ruining relationships is because of god damn male hormones. I think you all know what I'm talking about - the second you get turned on by her or think you have a chance in bed you convince yourself how into her you are, when in reality you're not. Then, after you get laid, you realize how little you liked her, and then feel guilty and its ruined.
I personally am aware of this at all times, so I just keep telling myself I'm only 'on' about her because of my dick. Another thing I do is get jiggy with internet porn right before a date, so I have a clear head, and can feel how I really feel about her.... Also if I F-up and convince myself I really like her, then screw her, then remember how I actually felt, I try to remember this is a typical stupid guy thing, and not to let it ruin it - in other words, after the sex, instead of throwing it away, I just take it where it actually is - not too deep but not pulling away.
By the way, you guys DO realize something right? Its in the male DNA to want to sleep with everything that walks... Its our mission to control that urge. Its also in the female DNA to try and build a bond with the person they're F-ing, which is an urge also not easily controlled.
This goes back to darwinism - if a man sleeps with 1 woman, how many babies does he have? 1.. if he sleeps with 100 women, how many babies, and thus how many chances of passing his DNA along does he have? 100.
If a woman sleeps with a man, how many babies? 1 .... if she sleeps with 100? still just the one... So theres not any real genetic benefit to sleeping around for a girl... Now theres the question of survival... Since typically in the 'olden' days or the caveman days, the woman depended on the man for survival, whats better for her and her young? Sleep with 100 men, none of which would feel tooo strongly about her, and thus none of which feeling toooo eager to protect her? How about if she builds a bond with just one - don't you think that one will be more likely to want to fight for her and her young?
This is just a theory. I mean I feel i have to try and understand the quirks or both genders - because the more you understand something, the more you can work with/around it. I kind of like my sex drive, but I'm to the point now where I can definitely settle down, IF the right girl comes along. Other than that I'm still up for the fun of it all.
Am I babbling?
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