just for the record, it doesn’t matter if it was a kiss, a bj or sex. it’s all cheating to me...they are all intimate acts that should only be done with your gf/bf (if seriously involved). I hate that mentality like, “oh it was just a KISS, that doesn’t count”. bullshit. if I found out that my boyfriend got wasted and was making out with some chick, I’d dump his ass (after kicking it, lol). it just goes to show that he has no self control or respect for me and our relationship. It would just cause problems anyway, because every time he’d go out drinking after that, I’d be worried he might make out with some chick again...who needs THAT kind of stress? no thanks...


no offense javi, I know that you are genuinely disappointed in yourself and you are in a long distance thing, so I think it’s a bit different. I seriously doubt that would have happened if your gf lived near you.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Slylee no offense javi, I know that you are genuinely disappointed in yourself and you are in a long distance thing, so I think it’s a bit different. I seriously doubt that would have happened if your gf lived near you.

It's all good.

I am very much in love with her, and I respect her completely.
She is my best friend..... wow, she does something for me no one has bbeen able to do ever.....she just exists and it makes me smile.

Im such a hopeless romantic, its not even funny.

thats why i feel so shitty about it.

I wouldnt have done it if she were here cuz i would have been with her! lol

and i wont do it again.......cuz thats just BS.
if this does happen again, then im going to have to accept that i cant be in a long distance relationship, no matter the feelings- cuz im not responsible enough to stay faithful.

but thats not the case as of yet......i feel i can do this.

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I think you can too You guys need to think about moving closer though, because it will only get harder...I speak from personal experience.

I was head over heels in love with my ex (before the current bf) who lives in Cali. I don’t think I’ll ever love or find someone like him ever again, he is a truly a gem...but it was like you said, I wasn’t responsible enough to maintain over such long distance. I am the type of girl who needs lots of love and affection and I crave that intimate feeling of companionship, so it was hard for me to do long distance. I needed to physically be with him, in the flesh. I had plans to move there, but I wasn’t saving enough money, and I basically just sort of gave up. it was really shitty of me, and I still get upset when I think about it to this day. I hope he forgives me, because I’m having a hard time forgiving myself about it. I met my current boyfriend towards the end of my relationship w/ that guy. I didn’t cheat on him though, so I feel good about that. I just hung out w/ him and his friends a lot, and it wasn’t physical for a long time until after I broke it off w/ the Cali guy and then things got serious after a few months or so.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

Yeah thing for me is...... ive was single for SO LONG...
didnt even consider anyone being my gf...(after my 4yr relationship with my 1st gf).

i was going my thing and was going to keep on doing it.

but then i met her and it flowed. I have only WANTED to be serious with 2 people in my life....my 1st gf, and this one....

plus my current gf has qualities i adore. I have truly never met a girl like her. SO i dont know.....i know a decision will have to be made sometime in the future about 'us'.

i just dont know what the outcome will be.

but for now, im enjoying having her in my life.
She makes me a better person.

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