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Originally posted by Moral Hazard Without question, the other woman involved should be of your girlfriend's choosing. Contrary to what Andrea has said, I would strongly caution against involving any woman that you already know and/or interact with on any regular or even semi-regular basis. Threesomes can bring forward all sorts of feelings, insecurities, jellousy, that you simply cannot anticipate. You may react differently to something this third party does, give her too much attention, seem too interested in the other woman, etc, and it may bother your girlfriend... conversly she may do the same. If any of these little problems that tend to crop up in threesomes does happen and it's someone you already know or have regular contact with they will be magnified. Play it safe, have your girl invite someone you don't already know and will likely never see again into the mix... that will mitigate any insecurities or jellousy that may develop (trust me, I wish I had incisted on this). Another tip... no matter what you may think; THIS IS NOT FOR YOUR ENJOYMENT EXCLUSIVELY, IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. If you girl is willing to do this it's likely because it's something she wants. Let her take the lead, don't be pushy or demanding, and don't be surprised if there are times when you are largely ignored. Finally, if you really love this girl but the relationship has any sort of instability then don't do it. Threesomes can be good in a stable relationship where both partners are equally open to the idea and very secure in their standing with the other, however, if there is any instability or insecurity this will likely be the begining of a horrible downward spiral in your relationship. Unless you have a rock solid relationship, this is a bad idea. PS... Craigslist.org

Seriously listen to this guy. He knows what he is talking about.

i love threesomes.

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Originally posted by drivingforce aderole

That is perhaps the absolute worst misspelling of Adderall I have ever seen

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Originally posted by jennypie Yeah, I think these kind of things either happen or they don't. Ideally you want it to be "spur of the moment". Seems like if you have to really push for it to happen, it's a good sign that you just shouldn't bother.

You took the words right outta my mouth Jennypie. I agree with you 100%. A 3some would be best as a "spur of the moment" and most probably not infringe with the relationship as long as one or the other wasn't coerced into it. The setting would also make a difference in my opinion. A couple hooking up with another in a night out clubbing would lesson suspicion of a recurrence behind the other's back. As well too if they met the individual at some house party. Both places to meet someone would be a relaxed environment. Just as long as it is not the intention in the first place to get a 3some going as this could lead to disappointment if no one was found and also would not be refreshingly spontaneous.

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hmm this seems to be the place to ask
mostly asking mr. hazard, cause he's the one with the most experience it seems, but the question's open to anyone

as a couple, my (bi) girlfriend and i have thought about it, but i've never been quite sure if it made the most sense to pursue a straight or a bi chick
opinions?

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i think you should try to find a bi girl. I think that's what your girlfriend would enjoy the most.

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Originally posted by TheWhiteQueen i think you should try to find a bi girl. I think that's what your girlfriend would enjoy the most.

but what about corrupting a straight one?

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that doesnt really happen in the real world. Besides, where the hell are you gonna find one to hook up with you let alone you and your lady.

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i like where this is headed

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rofl
that would be a bizzare 3-way
me, my gf, and tony danza's head on a clone of her body

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My EXgirlfriend was keen on having a threesome for 2 YEARS, all the way from the start of the relationship she said she would love it.
It never happened, because we couldn't find anyone ... just a warning, searching for someone might drive you nuts.

She also said she loved to swallow and enjoyed anal, which we rarely did...

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Knowing some ppl into this scene, I have to say it can be worth it but there are obvious pitfalls as well.

Namely, make sure that the girl you end up fooling around with is into you as well since if she's leaning towards women you may find the two doing their own thing without telling you later on -- and it becomes 'their' thing and 'their' friendship/whatever/etc.

But, hey, whatever happens, you'll have some good memories/stories, lol.

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