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Originally posted by Zild I mean most people only get married what like two or three times?

First of all, when you read this, keep in mind that my thoughts and prayers are with you and I honestly wish you a speedy recovery.

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Originally posted by squirrelly SO yea, I think I had a pretty good fucking excuse.

For turning down being the maid of honor? Sorry, but you're wrong there. Even if you weren't sure if you can make the wedding because of your cancer treatment, you still should have accepted being Maid of Honor. If the time comes and you know for a fact that you can't make the wedding, then I'm pretty sure they'll be understanding and accommodating. I know you didn't mean to be insulting when you backed down from being the maid of honor, but it obviously rubbed them the wrong way and they felt insulted by it. If you really are one of her best friends, you would do what it takes to be in her wedding.

Just my two cents.

PS: I want to add that if you did accept the maid of honor and they didn't let your bf go, then you have a legitimate gripe. If they feel like they want to spite you by not inviting your BF, I don't blame them. Cancer or no cancer, you just really brought this upon yourself. End of story.

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vern is right... cancer isnt an excuse... nor are your A and B reasons...

the $30 and the un-invite for the BF should be non issues... its her and his day


and i too wish you a speedy recovery... best regards

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welp. never let your friend marry a jew. there's your lesson.

I mean thats the perfect proof that god exists. Two idiots are meant for each other and now are getting married.

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Originally posted by Krypton College tuition should be free, so should healthcare.

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Originally posted by Meat187 Well, after all it's his wedding. It's not like she has anything to say, like invite guests she wants to come. Just call back and say you won't be coming if your bf isn't.

Why do I always think you are Yohan? Did you steal his avatar? I don't think your avatar is his avatar. This is very disconcerting. I always think you are he...

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Sara, I think you should do what you want to do. If you don't want to go to her wedding without your bf, let her know that. If you're okay going without your bf, just go with your mom and have a good time.

People can be so petty. Just don't let their pettiness affect you adversely.

they should just cancel the wedding reception and go to vegas to elope.

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Originally posted by Dervish My first reaction is similar to Theresas really. I mean is your BF even that worried? IF it was me I'd be thinking "yuss let off!"

Me too. But, seriously, probably your friend is going through some difficult times herself, and the guy seems to be a bastard anyway. Either you may respect her choice (and pray she will change her mind before it's too late), or you can come to the conclusion that you and your friend have become too different.

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Originally posted by verndogs For turning down being the maid of honor? Sorry, but you're wrong there. Even if you weren't sure if you can make the wedding because of your cancer treatment, you still should have accepted being Maid of Honor. If the time comes and you know for a fact that you can't make the wedding, then I'm pretty sure they'll be understanding and accommodating. I know you didn't mean to be insulting when you backed down from being the maid of honor, but it obviously rubbed them the wrong way and they felt insulted by it. If you really are one of her best friends, you would do what it takes to be in her wedding. Just my two cents. PS: I want to add that if you did accept the maid of honor and they didn't let your bf go, then you have a legitimate gripe. If they feel like they want to spite you by not inviting your BF, I don't blame them. Cancer or no cancer, you just really brought this upon yourself. End of story.

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Originally posted by Zewad vern is right... cancer isnt an excuse... nor are your A and B reasons... the $30 and the un-invite for the BF should be non issues... its her and his day and i too wish you a speedy recovery... best regards

Are you guys on crack? She has fucking cancer, I think if I asked a friend to be my best man and he said "I'm honored but I have cancer and my treatment may prevent me from attending or being able to participate in your wedding" I would sure as hell understand. Planning a wedding is also stressful so I would also appreciate them looking out for me so I wouldn't have to go looking for another best man at the last minute before the wedding.

Squirrelly, you are right and your friend's future husband is a douche

wow what a bunch of chumps, you know being maid of honor requires alot more work than simply showing up the day of the wedding.

And yeah it's 'their' day but its particularly and specifically rude to specifically disallow someone's boyfriend to come.

Bad beef back in the day or exs is one thing, but "because you dont know them"? Aren't wedding invitations typically +1 anyway?

If my girlfriend was not allowed to come I would tell them both I would not be attending and best of luck in the future. If you're counting nickels and dimes over dinner plates sounds like they aren't really good friendships. I can't imagine doing that myself.

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Originally posted by Fibonacci Aren't wedding invitations typically +1 anyway?

typically, unless you are too poor to have a real wedding. in that case you should just go to vegas and skip the wedding with guests anyway.