just a couple of points ...

1- if she was your best friend, she would have understood about your sickness, and the uncertainty if you were able to make it that day for some odd reason due to your sickness (btw, best of luck to you). just a question. when you told her you were backing out as MOH, did you leave any hints that you were able to make it on her wedding day? if so, then you may have given her the "hmm.. maybe i'll make it maybe i can't i don't know" approach.

2- $5000 for a wedding? come on. i say they can shell out more than that. hopefully that is the post wedding money. if that is the ceremony plus reception money, then they don't deserve to have a small guest wedding. like trunks said. they should save money, and go elope. poor or not, they should go all out on their wedding day to pull out the biggest celebration ever. by not committing a good amount shows how serious they are.

3- i am not one to act upon revenge. i say give them a wedding gift to open at their ceremony. inside the gift is $30 in monopoly money inside an envelope with your friend's name on it, and a pile of poop under it.

just my 2 cents ..........

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Originally posted by LeopoldStotch 2- $5000 for a wedding? come on. i say they can shell out more than that. hopefully that is the post wedding money. if that is the ceremony plus reception money, then they don't deserve to have a small guest wedding. like trunks said. they should save money, and go elope. poor or not, they should go all out on their wedding day to pull out the biggest celebration ever. by not committing a good amount shows how serious they are.

That has to be one of the most ridiculous things I have read in this thread.

Some people don't have the money, nor the desire to spend a great deal of money on a one day event. Why spend so much money for one day? A day that you're all stressed out, and don't really get the chance to enjoy much anyway? A whole whack of money out the door all in one shot that you probably had to save for years to have.

$5000 could go toward the payment of a house, or go toward a really nice honeymoon...

Weddings don't have to be super expensive to be good. It is SUPPOSED to be a gathering of friends and family to celebrate the joining of two people, not a free for all for everyone and their dog. That being said, if they are keeping it small $5000 is more than enough, and understandably they can't afford to have randoms coming too. They make the exception for one person, and then everyone gets their back up.

The ONLY thing that makes it seem a little unfair is that he had been previously invited. Unless of course the invitation was "assumed" and not actually formal. Did the invite have your name and his? Or did it have just yours? Or you plus one?

If it was assumed that he was invited, I don't see a reason to be upset. This is their special day, and they are allowed to have whoever they do or don't want to their wedding. You were invited because you're special to the bride, and she wants you to share in her excitement.

I wouldn't lose a friendship over something like this.

But the importance of putting up with appearances has not been discussed

WHAT A BEEEYOTCH!

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hmm .. maybe it's just me or the people i hang with. the weddings i have been to in the past that have been "low budgeted" have received some vicious reviews after the ceremony, especially on the female side.

one quote for a random movie ('Boiler Room') i watched a couple of days ago

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Now you all look money hungry and that's good. Anybody who says money is the root of all evil, doesn't have it! Money can't buy happiness? Look at the fucking smile on my face. Ear to ear, baby.

yeah people will say money isn't everything, and you can be happy with a low budget wedding. i used to believe that, then after attending several "low budget" weddings, i believe that quote above. money on a wedding does bring f'n happiness.

/selfish bastard

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Originally posted by Slylee i wouldn't show and then make your gift to them be a gigantic blown up picture of your boyfriend in a nice frame that has a photochopped super smiley saying "CALL ME " on it

fixed that for you

marriage is for fags anyway

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Originally posted by Arbiter marriage is for fags anyway

Only in a few places

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Originally posted by Sushipunk Only in a few places

which sushi has written down in a very safe place as the day approaches.

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**Man I'm Pretty**

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN which sushi has written down in a very safe place as the day approaches.

Bitch

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