Last saturday night I went out with a friend and we bumped with an ex-gf of a friend of us....

Then dunno how, she and I kinda ended up alone and making out in some dark alley

The thing is she and my friend broke up last week after about 6 months of being together. And both of them (my friend and his ex) aren't hmm quite over it.

After a couple minutes I just stood up and said "this is wrong", walked her home, nice goodbye with a kiss on the cheek and that was it. But I can't help to feel kinda shitty.

Anyway I've already decided that NOTHING will come out of it, it just happened out of boredom lol.

Just sharing I'm not looking for advice or something like that. Just want to hear about similar experiences

PS: totally off topic. Chill Out room posts don't count on the profile post count? I don't care about the number... but I know i've posted more than 40+ times

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Last edited by electric_soul on Nov-10-2003 at 15:05

At least you stood up and said that it was wrong. You shouldn't have started in the first place but I don't blame you for doing so. Doesn't sound like its that big of a deal, especially if you don't plan on doing anything else like that.

And chillout room posts don't count.

were you both drunk/high ?

I can't imagine this happening just like that.

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Last edited by malek on Nov-10-2003 at 15:28

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Originally posted by electric_soul After a couple minutes I just stood up and said "this is wrong", walked her home, nice goodbye with a kiss on the cheek and that was it. But I can't help to feel kinda shitty.

Congrats u win the TA nice guy award. j/k

Seriously, u did the right thing.

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well... we drank about 3 beers and had a joint in about a 6 hours of fooling around.

But we were pretty sober (at least I was, and she's a heavy drinker, so I take she wasn't drunk). The thing is that with girls I don't wait for anything (all that "signs, eye contact, etc" mumbo jumbo ppl usually talk in here). I just jump on to them and get either slapped in the face or kissed back (I even got punched once lol)

She kinda hesitated, and I told her later "You hesitated, you should've pulled me back", she replied "well... i didn't feel like it".

That was what scared the shit out of me, considering the whole situation.

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/me is crazy enough to study japanese (and proud of it)
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Originally posted by electric_soul well... we drank about 3 beers and had a joint in about a 6 hours of fooling around. But we were pretty sober (at least I was, and she's a heavy drinker, so I take she wasn't drunk). The thing is that with girls I don't wait for anything (all that "signs, eye contact, etc" mumbo jumbo ppl usually talk in here). I just jump on to them and get either slapped in the face or kissed back (I even got punched once lol)

Wish I had them guts

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She kinda hesitated, and I told her later "You hesitated, you should've pulled me back", she replied "well... i didn't feel like it". That was what scared the shit out of me, considering the whole situation.

She's entitled to have some fun, too, isn't she? After all it's not THAT dramatic. 6 months relationip is relatively serious but still no marriage. Personally I don see such a big moral dilemma. A friend of mine had a 2 years relationship with his gf and now she and his best friend are together for 3 years....you just live once

yes, i'm not saying anything about that... she can have all the fun she wants. it's a free country

but well... it's a nice thing to do to not hook up with friend's ex-gf at least for a while after they broke up... and a week is not enough of a while

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In my opinion it's a respect thing - and how close you are to your 'friend' (or if he's just an acquaintance).

You don't do ANYTHING with Ex-gfs of friends of yours where there was any emotional attachment/significance. Also if it was a bad breakup you don't do anything with friends of mentioned Ex-gf after the breakup takes place - so as to not introduce the ex back into the social circle. Cut all ties.

On the other hand, if she was just some ho from a club that got passed around the boys that's a whole other story, but otherwise - no way.

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"In a world of illusion you only see what you feel"

well... we've known each other since we were about 10 years old. but we've started being good friends since about 7 years ago... so no. it's no an acquaintance.

and no, she isn't a girl that just "passed by". that's why I feel so shitty.

So you people already know. never introduce me to your gfs

PS: I was looking forward to similar experiences, i'm the only one who did this kind of thing? hard to believe

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/me is crazy enough to study japanese (and proud of it)
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Originally posted by electric_soul Chill Out room posts don't count on the profile post count? I don't care about the number... but I know i've posted more than 40+ times

.... more like 3500 times for me..........



i was in a kinda similar situation, but i don't really wanna talk about this because it feels bad to remember it for both of us... plus i'm kinda paranoid that some people will find out about this post and that wouldn't be very nice.

but in any case, it did feel very wrong and i'm glad it didn't go any further, although i do blame myself for being weak and getting seduced.

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ahlamalek I'm just waiting for your inbox to get flooded by n00bs asking "omghi2u is that u in ur avatar!?!"

IMO, gilrs don't worry about past relations like we man do. Like 2 years ago was kindda dating this girl, we were together for almost 6 months but then I didnt want to be with her anymore. I decided to dump her in early december but she would cry all the time and this would convence me to be with her again. And then on new years eve she tried to kiss me and I said no, cause I just wanted to get smashed and high and stupid. And so I did. She was crying again but I was so f**cked up it didnt bother me this time. Thing is, I had so much to drink and smoke, I simply blacked out. Then suddenly I was making out with HER BEST FRIEND! Witness (firends of ours) said she was the one that came to me and made it all happen. People may say Im synical, but really, I was WAAAAAY too wasted to try any move on a girl. Girls are not diplomatic. I mean, Id NEVER hit on my friend's ex-gf the minute after she dumped him, abusing her drunken state.

But I must admit I loved being abused...

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