I have problems with my parents too. After living a life away from my father, I moved to the same city as him 6 years ago. He's the biggest **** ever, always feeling the need to show his alpha side while with others and always prioritizing his friends over his girlfriend and myself. I hadn't talked to him in 5 months when we unexpectedly ran into each other on the street a week ago. It didn't end well. I haven't visited my mother in 2 years although I speak with her on the phone quite often. I'll be moving away from the city as well, soon, so the opportunity to mend and bond has long since passed.
Other than that, my ex girlfriend got engaged two days ago. It rose a plethora of memories, but her fiancee seems like a decent guy so I wish them the best; I need to get operated again due to an old cyst while I can't get ahold of the surgeon and my current girlfriend and I are on the break-up point after she pulled the most shameful thing on me ever two days ago.
Ups and downs I guess..
Jun-24-2015 13:32
Dykes_on_Jay
Ape me.
Registered: Aug 2012
Location: Shenzhen LBC
Spill it, what did she do?
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Jun-24-2015 14:03
Silky Johnson
International Playa Hater
Registered: Nov 2003
Location:
I personally do not think family is the be-all, end-all of relationships. Relationships require effort, yes, but they shouldn't be work. It shouldn't be complicated or draining to be around people, especially not your family (imo).
My bottom line is, relationships have to bring positivity to the parties involved. It literally does not makes sense to stay engaged in a relationship that is toxic in any way, or consistently stressful. It's just plain not good for you, in any way!
Jun-24-2015 14:14
OrangestO
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Registered: Feb 2010
Location:
I cut my father off when I went into the Army. It was around the time he discovered he had cancer, too. I was young and dumb, though. An angry kid without any perspective whatsoever on the situation. Luckily, he beat it. A light bulb finally went off that maybe I should revolve some of these issues so I can move forward in my own self development before anything else happens. It really helped the both of us. More than I thought it would, tbh.
As for my mom, that's still an ongoing issue. She denies everything, never wants to sit down and discuss the past, and has never had the ability to express her emotions - ever. Never an "I love you" or that kind of thing. You start throwing in stepparents and other variables into the equation and things can get messy. But yea, resolving things with my dad was of the utmost importance because he raised me and we share a lot of similarities as far as our personality traits and paths in life.
Good to see you're doing better, Juan. Keep pushing!
Jun-24-2015 14:58
Chimney
Low pH
Registered: Oct 2008
Location: Western Block
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Originally posted by Dykes_on_Jay
Spill it, what did she do?
She had problems getting a practice place within the hospital. So I asked one of my old professors whom I respect immensely if she could help and she was kind enough to talk to one of her acquaintances to take my gf under her wing.
The next day, my dumbass girlfriend showed up with another colleague. For Americans this could be a total nonsense, but over here it's basically like spitting on the cheek of the person that tried to help you.
Jun-24-2015 15:50
Dykes_on_Jay
Ape me.
Registered: Aug 2012
Location: Shenzhen LBC
I'm not American, and I still don't get it.
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Jun-24-2015 18:16
Chimney
Low pH
Registered: Oct 2008
Location: Western Block
The professor did me a favour and talked to her friend for one person. My girlfriend bringing another without asking anyone pujt me in a bad position.
Jun-24-2015 18:44
Vivid Boy
TA's GodFather
Registered: Sep 2001
Location: T.O
I see what you mean. Not worth breaking up over but I would be pissed too. She sounds young. Probably did not understand proper etiquette of the hook up.
