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Originally posted by OrangestO If it was decided between the two of them without your feelings being taken into account then that's bullshit to begin with.

This is very true. None of us are qualified to appraise the status of your relationship with her, but if you've already said your piece and she still ignores you... well, it's either time for you to:

Take a stand.

Take a seat.

Don't get me wrong, I am by no means proposing machismo in any way, but you need to assert to her that you are bothered by it, and if she is not in any way affected by your feelings on the matter... well... she's perhaps not someone you should continue to care about.

Or maybe you do care about her, and you should just get past this because it's obviously dumb to begin with. Why should you care? He's gay, and is not interested in her in any sexua- maybe he's bi? Oh fuck. You need to caveman this shit right now.

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Caveman?! Is that another term for butt-pirate? How deep is he willing to go to find out whether this bloke is really gay?

As deep as it takes! *snap*

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Originally posted by Halcyon+On+On maybe he's bi? Oh fuck.

LOL, was about to say exactly this.

MY STORY IS COMPLETELY ANECDOTAL, SO TAKE WHAT YOU WANT FROM IT.

I used to have a gay friend that did this all the time. He was one of those guys that would be all over women, all the time, and it was cool because he was gay. All parties were "disarmed" so to speak.

Totally bi. Totally wanted to shag straight girls, and he was pretty good at it. His BF dumped him because he ended up sleeping with one of their mutual (female) friends and one of their mutual (male) friends over the course of a weekend, and word got back. He was a huge slapper, basicaly.

I was there for the meltdown too, it was pretty epic, lol


LAdaze: If it's an issue, then you need to talk to your GF about it.

Or, just suggest that the 3 of you sleep in the one bed

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Originally posted by Sushipunk LAdaze: If it's an issue, then you need to talk to your GF about it.

Yeah, I know. I just don't see what can be gained from it.

Just tell her that you are uncomfortable with another man sleeping in her bed regardless of sexual orientation. I wouldn't like it either. He can sleep on the couch, if she does not have one offer yours. If I used "she is sleeping in my bed, but don't worry she is a lesbian." with anyone i was ever with, it would not fly. I would just calling every woman a lesbian while taint smashing them with impunity. If that doesn't work, just say that you have Lupus. Pity can work.

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I had a similar experience, except I was the girlfriend.
One of my gay friends was going through a really tough time and needed to talk. I invited him over while my (then boyfriend) was at the house, it was a tiny apartment. My friend and I had a long conversation, then he started bawling his eyes out and literally passed out crying on the bed. I didn't want to wake him, so my ex said that he can stay, and went to spend the night at his friend's house. I shared the bed with my gaylord. Of course, nothing happened, he's gayer than a man-purse on J Alexander.

I think it's a trust thing. My ex didn't mind because he trusted me implicitly, and knew that my friend was indeed gay so he wasn't going to try anything. But I can perfectly understand why that would bother other men.
As others said, if it's a real issue for you, you must talk about it with your girl. I'm sure she will be understanding if she's worth a damn. And hopefully the guy in question can find another place to stay.

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I would fuck him first to make sure he was gay.

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I'm sure that would've been more useful a therapy for him than our talk.

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The only hard feelings should be in your pants

a good shag gets the pain out the bag.

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I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that this gay guy is you.

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Originally posted by OrangestO This isn't about physics, this is about waves.

Only on alternate Tuesdays.

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