so my gay dude sleeping at my gfs place situation was resolved - in a rather odd way, though.
so i spoke with my gf about it and eventually she suggested she just ask him to sleep in the living room, which sounded like a great solution to me. she did that yesterday and then today he cancelled his trip [driving down from SF]. she described him as being a 'bitch'.
i'm not going to jump to conclusions regarding any sort of foul play, as i certainly don't believe that's the nature of it, but i do think that there's a certain class of gay guy (and no i'm not a homophobe - i hope this doesn't come out that way) that thrives on that sort of intimacy. That is, that validates their senses of self worth through these sorts of actions, feeling that by virtue of their being not-straight they can get very close to people, work their way into those sorts of situations.
i don't really see any other reasonable explanation as to why this guy, a supposedly good friend with whom she's lost touch over the past 8 or 9 months, would bitchily cancel his trip when told that he couldn't sleep in her bed.
it's a resolution, at least, but not one i can really wrap my head around.