my sister just called me to tell me that my dad is disappointed in me because i only called his wife "yesterday" (actually, i called saturday morning) to see how she's doing since her younger brother died last week.

i also got her a sympathy card on sunday and just filled it out earlier today (ironically enough) and planned on dropping it in the mail tomorrow.

i've never fucking liked this woman, she has nerver really been there for me. all she does is spend my dad's money and sit on her fat ass, and not only that, but my dad has done nothing but "disappoint" me for the past 5 years. she has caused stupid fights between my dad and my sister and i over the past few years and my dad just let's her.

i've been civil to her out of respect for my dad, but i don't like her at all, and all of a sudden i'm supposed to be her best friend because her brother died?

am i a piece of shit here? i don't get it.

should i have called the very next day, or put more effort into this? to be honest, i didn't want to call her right away because she was a wreck probably and i don't know how i'd act if she started crying on the phone.

i can't fucking stand this woman.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

Did you tell him that?

Edit: He should understand that you don't like the one he's interested in. She isn't blood relations so why should he be mad if you don't like her. He should be trying to fix things between the two of you instead. (going by what you said about him being there for you)

no matter how obnoxious she is, when people die, that doesn't really matter. .02

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I'm sure she's getting enough sympathy already, and if she needs more, tell her to look in the dictionary between shit and syphilis.



Seriously though, it's not your responsibility to pet this woman on the head and make everything "groovy" again. If you don't like her, you don't like her.



Edit: OK, I'm not really this cold - but I still think the fact that you called at all should mean more than when and where you did. I still think you really didn't even [b]have[/b[ to call at all..

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Originally posted by inconspicuous no matter how obnoxious she is, when people die, that doesn't really matter. .02

+1

But I do understand how you feel. Its kind of one of those things where you wonder if she would even want to hear from you anyways.

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it's pretty much understood, but when i visit them, you would never think there's anything wrong. we're both very pleasant to each other but it's just kinda phony and i go through episodes of hating her and then i'll see them and i'm like, "ehh, she's not that bad" but she does play stupid games and she is a gold digger phony.

i'm just saying, she never picks up the phone to call me and i never call her. we're just not friends like that or cool like that. i waited a few days so she could calm down and be with her family (she flew to florida to be with her family right away) and i figured, "ok i'll let her calm down a bit before i call her" and i did. i left a voicemail and didn't hear back from her, so that's when i decided to get her a sympathy card. and i'm not just saying this either, but i swear iw as going to call either her again or my dad tomorrow cuz i was wondering how everyone was.

but now that my sister told me that my dad said that i'm really upset.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

You're not in the wrong here, imo. You STILL called, you sent( are sending) a card. What does she want? For you to get n bended knee to grieve? I mean YES, it's respectful to give sympathy to whom ever, but what else are you to do? You live a busy life, and you don't always have time to the unimportant ones lol

She sounds like a bitch.

Maybe you need to call your dad and explain. It might make you feel better.

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Originally posted by Slylee but now that my sister told me that my dad said that i'm really upset.

It's really fucking weak that they said anything at all. Like I said, it's not your responsibility to comfot this woman - the fact that you did anything at all should mean something to your dad.

There's really no reason for anyone to be making you feel shit about this.

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well he mentioned that i just called "yesterday" and didn't leave a voicemail, and i totally did and i called 2 days ago. and my sister is a fucking family gossip, so it's really hard to trust anything she says.

i should just call him now right?

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

that gets my vote.

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what? to call him now?

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone