hi… please read this, i know its long but you can help me if you read it all…

well i need some advice from you guys and girls... you see theres this girl at my school that i like… but i like her from her outward appearance… since she’s not in any of my classes, i don’t know what kind of person she is…but from observation she seems to be a really nice person…don’t get me wrong though i don’t like her just for her looks… i mean she’s not even “hot” or “popular” or have guys hitting on her…but for some reason its just something about the face that i like her

well getting to the point… as i said she’s not in any of my classes… thus i only see her at random times like during lunch or when walking to the next class… well i like her but i don’t know what i should do… should i talk to her?... if so then how?... like i said i see her at random times… its not like theres a set time or place im garuanteed to see her at… so i don’t know how it would be done… or should i wait until next semester or next year or something until she is in one of my classes (IF she is)?... or, what other options do i have? i just want to talk to her, get to know her… that’s it though, im not gonna ask her out or anything… but say you were a girl wouldn’t it be pretty damn stupid if a guy just walked up to you and said “hey whats up”…? well if i was a girl i would definitely think so

well maybe i can help you help me… heres a little more “information” that you may need to know… well one of her friends is in my class…. i know this for a fact because ive seen them hang with each other… well one day my friend told the girl in our class that i liked her friend… you know in hopes of her hooking me up with the girl i like… right so a couple days later she comes to me in class and tells me that the girl i like also happens to like me… right so i was kind of undecided on what to think… i consult with my friend on the facts… we come to the conclusion that 1) the girl in our class is trying to play me, mess with my head, make a fool of me, or what have you… we don’t know why she would do this… i haven’t done her any wrong and in fact i never even talk to her much… she (the girl in our class) could possibly like me but we doubt it because we are totally different types of people… no match whatsoever and she doesn’t even seem interested in me… but whether the girl in my class does like me or not, i don’t care… the fact is that we doubt that she’s telling the truth about the girl i like actually liking me back… the reason we doubt that its true is that every time i walk by the girl i like (the random times when i happen to) she either doesn’t look at me or when we make eye contact she shows no, how should i say this, no hint that she likes me… which brings me to the second conclusion me and my friend made… 2) the girl i like does indeed like me back but she hides it and hides it damn well

well based on my explanations what conclusion would you make? what should i do? should i even do anything? i really don’t mind not taking any action… well i hope you guys and girls can analyze this and give me the best advice… i know my post is a little bit disorganized but i hope you can make sense of it… i also know that i use period excessively but oh well… thanks

Koala

Last edited by Koala on Jan-19-2003 at 03:25

Say this as the first thing:

'Have you ever recieved the shocker?'

well i only read a part of it
sorry bout that

but yea talk to her
dont regret it later

and you say you see her at lunch.... maybe you two can have lunch together
and get to know her better

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Originally posted by RedLunatik and you say you see her at lunch.... maybe you two can have lunch together and get to know her better

yeah i see her at lunch sometimes... wouldnt it be pretty random or suspicious if a total stranger just walks up to her and starts eating lunch with her? lol

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Originally posted by uwmadtrance Say this as the first thing: 'Have you ever recieved the shocker?'

i'm sure that'll help him out

heres what i did and it got me a girlfriend. You go up say "hi". talk for 2 seconds. ask her out to coffee. just show her you arent some crazy weirdo and shell have no choice but to accept. and YOU BUY the drink. do not fuck up and let her buy her own.

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Originally posted by Orbax heres what i did and it got me a girlfriend. You go up say "hi". talk for 2 seconds. ask her out to coffee. just show her you arent some crazy weirdo and shell have no choice but to accept. and YOU BUY the drink. do not fuck up and let her buy her own.

sorry no coffee in my high school... and theres no other drink i can buy her... "hey want a sports drink?" :)

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Originally posted by Koala sorry no coffee in my high school... and theres no other drink i can buy her... "hey want a sports drink?"

why do you have to do it in school?
go to a coffee shop after school or somthing.

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Originally posted by BTG why do you have to do it in school? go to a coffee shop after school or somthing.

well like i said i randomly see her... but say i saw her at lunch i couldnt just introduce myself and talk for a little, then ask her to wait for me at location x after school so i can go buy her some coffee

anyhow.. any other ideas?

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Originally posted by Koala well like i said i randomly see her... but say i saw her at lunch i couldnt just introduce myself and talk for a little, then ask her to wait for me at location x after school so i can go buy her some coffee anyhow.. any other ideas?

This is pretty much what you gotta do. Just be yourself and talk to her while having coffee or whatever. By doing this you'll see if there's chemistry between you, if there is, ask her out on another date and things will progress from there.

I'm a pretty much a pimp at my school, and since I'm not really that attractive I can pretty safely say that what the girls are looking for is: Someone who will listen to all their little dramas, you know, sympathize with em and help em out. Also, just be very nice, all the time. This will REALLY help in the long run. Thirdly, have lots of confidence without appearing stuck up or arrogant. One thing I've learned for sure is, girls will not date you out of pity.

As for talking to her, you could just introduce yourself. That's a pretty ballsy move on anyones part really, and if shes cool she'll respect that, and if she thinks thats gay, she's probably a bitch that you shouldn't waste your time on. Hope I could help

The coffee Idea is also good, spending some dough is always nice for flattery