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OK. What should I do about her. PART 2.. a response (pg. 3)
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| LoCa |
I'm gonna be honest here and tell you that what she just wrote to you is an elongated (and full of bull) way of telling you that she's just not interested and will possibly never be.
The good thing is she didn't with your head for too long. The bad thing is she actually ed with you a little before she let you know about it. She got back with that guy while you were making efforts with her without telling you? that. She's right, you deserve better.
If you're (and it seems like you are) one of the nice guys out there you don't need another mind by a chick who's quite clearly not worth the hassle.
What irritates me about this one is she had to write out a HUGE letter before letting you know (towards the end) that, well, she wasn't going for it. I hate that. What's the problem with saying it straight out? Admittedly it's being harsh but , at least you're not reading the letter thinking there might be some hope and feeling more and more crushed as you go on.
Piece of advice: forget the bitch, move on. You can do better.  |
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| bassaholix |
Dood what can i say.. all is fair in love and war...
to love someone you have to take that risk, and you took it and lost.. but what if you had won.. it would be a whole new ball game... thats the way life goes at times..
You should feel lucky she gave you a decent response.
The response that i got was like"
Im sorry this can't go on, although it hurts me more than for you, you were just a CHALLENGE..." <---- not nice :whip:
Took me a while to get over it since it hurt like .. but now ive moved on and iron plated my heart, i know it maybe not be the right thing to do, but i prefer to start a career and worry about other trivial things... it might be the wrong decision.. but i alone have taken it.. |
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| Plaptop |
| Ya..the funny thing was it wasnt until I read it outloud to myself, and heard the words come back through me that I realized.. what a bunch of . I have also read some very good points. And honestly, I was more bothered not knowing what the heck was up, than I was knowing that it wasnt going to happen. The good thing about this is I made up my mind.. WEMF or bust! :) Thanks for the responses too everyone. Not usually one to put my issues out there because we all have our own to deal with.. but you guys made me feel a lot better about this. |
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| Trancewave |
Even though it's a 'nice' but yet incoherent letter I really think it's a load of crap. The 'you deserve better than me' line doesn't cut it with me either. Women/girls feed guys these kinda bull all the time by being diplomatic and taking the easy way out. It's really when dumb guys accept it to be true, is when they give us guys a bad name. :mad:
You're pouring your heart out to someone whom you just met while she didn't even bother to tell you that she was emotionally tied to someone else? Whatever her excuse is, when someone shuts you out of her life like that without even telling you why is inexcusable (unless something bad has happened to her of course). How would you know something like this won't happen to you again in the future?
As you read her letter, you can't possibly believe what she is saying now seriosly. I'm glad a lot of people in this thread can see past the tangled web of bull that she is feeding you. I'm not a pessimist but rather a realist. If you're a great of a guy as she says you are and it looks that way you could find someone a billion times better, someone that will treat you with so much more respect than this women has shown you.
EDIT: glad you agreed.:) |
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| Arbiter |
You ed up because you came off as being too nice. Now you're probably screwed, although you may as well go for the massive guilt trip which sometimes works either that or start going out with someone else but keep in contact with her and jsut try to make her jealous. Anyway, next time I recommend being an , adn by that I don't mean being an to the girl, but being an to everyone else when you are around her. I don't know why it works, but it does.
You should probably just ignore whatever I said, I'm too drunk now to think coherently.
gl hf,
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| Floorfiller |
what can i say...we've all had something similar to this at some point or another...well except maybe the butt pirates:thepirate , but anyway...let me tell you my story...hopefully you can learn from it...
a few years ago...i went out with this girl (i've always been the type of guy that goes out with people that ask me out hehehe) and we started dating. she had some bad relationships in the past aka verbal abuse and everything was good for a while. outta the blue one day she breaks up with me over the phone after about three months. i didn't have a clue why? anyway, i was upset about it...looking back at it mostly because i didn't know why, but i was like..lets still be friends because her best friend is also one of my best friends and he hung out with the same people etc etc. anyway, i would give her a call and she wouldn't return it and then i'd call a few days later and nothing...i'd finally get her on the phone and it was basically i need my space. anyway, i finally stopped trying, met a girl who is perfect for me (of course this last girl heard because like i said...he hung out with the same people)...and shortly after...who do you think came around to apologize?? she eventually started seeing someone..i was still in my same relationship and she became friends again...i think after that...the next guy she was dating was an ass and she realized what a huge mistake she made, but eh...i'm happy now..and my lady treats me right hehehe...
so the moral of this story is...don't push too hard because once you stop pushing they'll come to you. as far as your situation...i would send her a nice reply saying something to the effect of "i understand now why you have been MIA and i respect that...please know that i'll always have feelings for you blah blah"...and leave it at that...don't write her again...you've already put more then enuff effort into this...it doesn't look like she has done anything except send you this email. let her come to you if she wants to still be friends. other then that...keep looking :).
oh and like Swamp said...don't let her get you in a tug-o-war with the other guy.. |
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| MisterOpus1 |
A few questions if I may:
1. Couldn't you have just paraphrased her letter, as opposed to putting it up here in front of everyone, showing a complete stranger's personal feelings toward you? I donno, I personally wouldn't be too excited knowing my thoughts on you were spread to the entire internet community if I were her. Then again, she probably won't be on Tranceaddict anytime soon. And I'm also a sensitive whiny bitch, so just disregard what I just wrote.
2. Was this response of hers before or after the 9-step plan I told you to follow?
3. Did you really follow my 9-step plan, or are you brushing me off now too?
4. I'm still wondering if you bagged her in the pooper.
5. In all seriousness, give her some space. Write back and tell her that you'll comply and leave her be, but have her call you if and whenever she's ready. But she must be aware that you won't necessarily wait up for her, and that her phonecall may very well be interrupting you bagging some other girl in her pooper.
6. Get off this Internet love will ya? Plenty of good poopers out there in real life. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by MisterOpus1
A few questions if I may:
1. Couldn't you have just paraphrased her letter, as opposed to putting it up here in front of everyone, showing a complete stranger's personal feelings toward you? I donno, I personally wouldn't be too excited knowing my thoughts on you were spread to the entire internet community if I were her. Then again, she probably won't be on Tranceaddict anytime soon. And I'm also a sensitive whiny bitch, so just disregard what I just wrote.
2. Was this response of hers before or after the 9-step plan I told you to follow?
3. Did you really follow my 9-step plan, or are you brushing me off now too?
4. I'm still wondering if you bagged her in the pooper.
5. In all seriousness, give her some space. Write back and tell her that you'll comply and leave her be, but have her call you if and whenever she's ready. But she must be aware that you won't necessarily wait up for her, and that her phonecall may very well be interrupting you bagging some other girl in her pooper.
6. Get off this Internet love will ya? Plenty of good poopers out there in real life. |
you like....pooopers?? |
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| Plaptop |
| Dude you kill me. You are worried about her feelings? I dont think she feels at all. |
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| Innervision |
A similar thing happened to me. I was dating a girl for over a month and got very attached. Everything was going beautifully and i got pretty attached. Then randomly, she comes forward and explains some things to me. That she has been trying to love me all this time and that theres simply "no chemistry."
It hurts, but all you gotta do is suck it up and move on. Women will come and go a lot, and theres no point in going crazy over them each time...no matter how much it hurts. |
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| Vivid Boy |
this bitch man....u know what u do to get back heres a few sceneraio's..
1) in a bag light it on fire and heres the twist instead of putting it on her front porch and ringing the door bell...u stick it straight into her gas tank...and watch the ****** blow.... and than yell thats for feedin me bitch!!!!!! heres ur back u skank hoe!!!!!!!"
u prolly wont need the poop either...
2) find out who her man is...call him tell him while they broke up for a bit u got the rebound and slept with her a fewe times not knowing that she was still involved with him....tell him u dont want to see him get hurt like he did and that the bitch aint worthy...
he'll believe you even if it was true and he asked her about it she would deny it anyways right???
then u poop in a bag and shove it into her gas tank |
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| whiskers |
| quote: | Originally posted by Vivid Boy
2) find out who her man is...call him tell him while they broke up for a bit u got the rebound and slept with her a fewe times not knowing that she was still involved with him....tell him u dont want to see him get hurt like he did and that the bitch aint worthy...
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yeah, and don't forget to tell him that you banged her in "da pooper" ROFL :haha: :D |
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