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depression?? how to get over it? help please (pg. 2)
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| Dj onE |
man i just found out a few minutes ago that my friend shot himself in the head right after he shot his girlfriend, because she broke up with him....this is n crazy!!!...
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| Dmatrox |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dj onE
man i just found out a few minutes ago that my friend shot himself in the head right after he shot his girlfriend, because she broke up with him....this is n crazy!!!...
.dJonE. |
ouch :( Probably will be in the news. |
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| anuneventrade |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dj onE
man i just found out a few minutes ago that my friend shot himself in the head right after he shot his girlfriend, because she broke up with him....this is n crazy!!!...
.dJonE. |
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| Dj onE |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dmatrox
ouch :( Probably will be in the news. |
yeah and the wierdest thing about it is that that was the last person that i would think would pull something like that :( ....and in front of his house on his porch?!?!?!?...WTF????!?!?!?...with his mom in the house!!...:( :( :( :( :( :(
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| Dmatrox |
what a sad day :(
how close were your friend? and its really sad that he took someone elses life too :( |
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| neoh |
you know, depression bites.
I'll give you my story, maybe it will cheer you up.
I was diagnosed with bipolar a couple years ago, it's been hectic ever since. The troubles I have been experiencing over the last couple monthes only effect me, which is a good thing - as I dont like getting others involved, but maybe talking about it helps, because I do like to isolate myself.
So, here it goes.
The beginning of September I lost my job, and was arrested for something I did not do, I have to go back to court on Tuesday to see if I get jail time or not. I can't proove my innocence, because two witnesses "saw" me, in which are dire enemies of mine, so that doesen't give me too much, and I cant afford a lawyer.
About a week later, I was in a car accident - my power steering in my car failed, and I kept going right. My car hit a ditch, flipped over, breaking my back and my leg. I wrote off my car, insurance wouldent cover it. I lost my license because I didint keep right.
So, jobless, carless.. my girlfriend is in Florida working at disney world, I cant pay rent, I cant pay my cell bill, I cant pay for anything because of the medical costs, and all the other that went behind it. She surprised me in the hospital (thank god) - that was a moment of relief for me.
So, since I am unemployed and carless, I've been going to events and shows lately (gabriel & dresden, dumonde, future breeze, johan gielen, rank1, lange, etc. etc.) with the money I have saved - and have been doing E, which has been altering my perception, and letting me enjoy life, if only for that brief period. (dont ing tell me to stop doing it.) - anyways, I've been partying with the same girl, which happens to be my girlfriend's (who is the only girl i've ever loved) - best friend. Now, I am starting to get feelings for her, and to top it off - my girlfriend told me to quit smoking, or quit seeing her. So of course, I had to quit smoking in order to keep her, but I have feelings for her best friend.. and, blah.
I dread going to bed. It literaly scares me. I might be going to jail, my back and leg havent healed yet, I dont know what to do about my girl situation, my car, a job.. life just ing sucks, I dont eat, I dont sleep. I have lost 30lbs because of it.
There's my story. Hopefully i'm not ignored. :sadgreen:
and stk, as for you.. try smoking, always helped me when I had girl problems. (though I have some now - I still have them from time to time.) women are a part of life. It always takes more than one to find the right one, it's almost like everything in life. You have to know what to look for, and to look forward to. Know that one day there will be a girl that will walk by you, and you will just know. Heart break only makes us stronger as individuals, depression hurts.. but sometimes we have to look at the good things, and the good parts about what happened, I am sure it has made you a better person, what would you have done without her? You may have found someone better and missed that opportunity. Maybe write her a letter, tell her how you feel - I know it is probably eating you up inside, and maybe just telling her exactly how you feel about it, and the situation - she will understand and talk to you about it. It does help, she was not only a lover, but also a friend, and maybe she can take that role once more, and if she does not want that role, then you know she was not a friend to begin with, and you need to replace her. If we continue worrying about the things that have been, then we will miss the things that come up to us in the future.
Enjoy life, I try to. And when things are going down, we always have the beautiful music that binds us all together.
as I type this to sarah mclachlen - fallen (g&d remix) :)
Hopefully my ramblings made some sense.
- neoh |
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| KarenLuvs2Party |
Really sorry to hear you are going thru depression.
Anytime I'm involved in any type of relationship or even feelings for anyone..it just turns bad. It totally sucks even more because most of my friends are attached. I was totally depressed for a while until I learned to try to deal with it.
No matter how hard you try, you have to find it in yourself and support from others to keep you strong. If the people you currently surround yourself with ARE NOT supportive, maybe its time to find others?
Find something that keeps you happy whether its working out, driving in ur car and listening to some good beats, or just walking down the beach. When I was very depressed, I just thought to myself "F@$K everybody else!", the most important person in your life should be yourself. Don't let anybody else ruin it or make you think differently of yourself. I know its difficult, but just try. Hey if you need someone to talk to ..send me a msg. :) Good luck. |
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| Arbiter |
No drugs. No shrinks. No crap.
You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and just start over. I know it sounds harsh, but unless you have a serious chemical imbalance, which is highly unlikely, the only solution is for you, yourself, to decide to take a different attitude. It is your decisions that are going to lead you to happiness or depression. If you put in the effort to improve your life and take a positive outlook towards the future, there's no reason you can't be happy.
The thing you have to do is to take personal responsibility for your life. Stop thinking that it's just because you've been born shy and introverted that you have trouble meeting people. Your natural personal tendencies are nothing that can't be overcome with a little self-discipline.
I don't expect you to take my advice. I've known a lot of depressed people, and they rarely do. I'm not telling you it's going to be immediate or easy. But it's nothing you can't do. If you don't, it's because you choose not to - and you have no one to blame but yourself so don't expect anyone to feel sorry for you.
Best Wishes,
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| SKELETOR |
| quote: | Originally posted by neoh
Enjoy life, I try to. And when things are going down, we always have the beautiful music that binds us all together.
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you're problably the smartest person on this board...
its hard, its very hard... depression really does suck.. and quotes like "dont let it get to you" really do piss me off.. but thats cause they're true... use music or whatever hobbies you have to divert your mind, and eventually its just gona go away.. happened to me atleast.
Lonelyness can also lead to depression.. thats what happened to me atleast. But i realized that lonelyness is the clearest crystal to ones self... you can learn a lot about yourself, and grow as a person.
dont know if i made any sense or not.. but i wish you the best of luck. |
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| neoh |
| quote: | Originally posted by SKELETOR
you're problably the smartest person on this board...
its hard, its very hard... depression really does suck.. and quotes like "dont let it get to you" really do piss me off.. but thats cause they're true... use music or whatever hobbies you have to divert your mind, and eventually its just gona go away.. happened to me atleast.
Lonelyness can also lead to depression.. thats what happened to me atleast. But i realized that lonelyness is the clearest crystal to ones self... you can learn a lot about yourself, and grow as a person.
dont know if i made any sense or not.. but i wish you the best of luck. |
Believe it or not, I have a girlfriend, see her every day.. yet I still feel so alone.
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by neoh
Believe it or not, I have a girlfriend, see her every day.. yet I still feel so alone.
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watch Escaflowne and tell me how you feel. |
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| neoh |
| I hate anime. :whip: |
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