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Are your standards too high
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| Subey |
Question for everyone...
Obviously through the media we are being constantly exposed to the top 5% of attractive women.
Do you think this has made your standards of who you would date too high? i.e. a girl who isn't bad looking seems worse because in part of your mind you are comparing her to all the hotties you see on tv etc.
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| {b.s.e.} |
I think there is a certain percentage of people (both men and women) that overshoot their sights in terms of dating. If you take something as simple as a highschool subculture, people stereotypically fall into place within the heirchy and that's the way she goes. The geek doesn't get the hot girl, since this isn't American Pie. I think everyone would like to have something that society perceives as beautiful, but unless you are deluded in the ways of standards, you most likely are going to stick to what you know.
I don't like getting into my personal 'standards' as that seems to cheapen what it means, and gives you a rather snobby appeal in the process.
Stepping off the soapbox, now.
Today's media has basically created your self-esteem. Without it, you wouldn't know what was cool, or what was new. You argue this because you don't know any different. But imagine there wasn't such a widespread net of culture and information, you would never know what was going on even 500 miles away.
I think I'm ranting, in closing, I love beautiful women, and have the tendency to pursue them, rather than something less tantilizing. :tongue2 if there's intelligence and beauty, I'm laughin'.. |
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| whiskers |
not for me
if a girl has a nice personality, that counts much more than extreme hotness |
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| Dmatrox |
| No i wouldnt say so. I don't compare women in the real world to the "hotties (I) see on TV". Ive never realized that until now. |
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| jp |
| The girl I love should be my soulmate, looks are less important. |
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| Omegasox |
Standards aren't necessarily physical.
I don't think the media has influenced my standards, but they have always been high for me. I just can't settle for anything less, I've never been able to do so no matter what the situation. |
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| UglyDave |
for sex: nope, i'd get on on almost anything :)
relationships: amm, looks are a lot less important when it comes to this, if i met a gal who i clicked with really well, then i'd say we could have a go at things..
too many girls out there.. gonna take forever to get through them all and find one that's perfect! |
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| igottaknow |
Good point! When i find my high standards are getting in the way of my sex life i just ask her to wear one of these...
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| Streakfury |
I dont think there's such a thing as standards being too high. Everybody's different, and so everybody will find different things attractive in a person. People say that the 'geek' will never get the 'hottie'. But then again, it depens on the hottie. If she goes for loooks etc, then no probably not. But if she goes for personality over looks then the geek may shine ;)
I guess you've just got to find someone who looks for the same things in a partner that you do. If you look for personality, it's generally because you have a great personality yourself. And the same goes for looks too, I guess.
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| torontotrance |
| No my standards are not too high. They are high for a reason because I rather not waste my ing time dating useless women. I have no time for them. |
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| mezzir |
| quote: | Originally posted by Dmatrox
No i wouldnt say so. I don't compare women in the real world to the "hotties (I) see on TV". Ive never realized that until now. |
ya same here
i don't really think of the people i see on tv and in the media as part of my world, cause they only exist to me as actors and as models, not as people
hopefully that made sense |
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| torontotrance |
| I think that's the true problem that we see the media hype and we expect the women that we want to be at that standard. I've seen pics of most of these models without makeup and everything and they look just like the rest of us. I hate the media for it because they make us see hot women and expect them to be like that. To be honest, the woman that I want to date at the moment may not be the greatest looking person if you compared her to others (she ain't ugly either :P) but her personality is what drew me to her. That's what keeps me involved because she cares and she has the personality that I'm looking for. One thing that I have learned over the years that women are not medals that you show off. Ask married couples, did you marry the hottest person on earth, most will say no but they married the person with the characteristics that they wanted in a mate. I just say the hype and look for one with true person with true qualities. |
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