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| red eyed phil |
My best friend called me saying that she was at her grandparents and i know that this is a lie because i have caller id- it said the name of one of HER friends(i just know them). and i know shes partying with a group of her friends, because i've been there before.
She's my best friend and has always been there for me. in the past, id get really depressed and think of killing myself, and id call her up for support/help. We're THAT close. She said that I could ALWAYS count on her and she'd always call me up to see if i wanted to hang out with her. It feels as if i got stabbed in the back and shes not my friend. and right now i feel absolutley horrible. i dont know what to do.
Should I just ignore this, or should i call and explain how i feel?
If i do call, im afraid I'd hurt both of us very badly- i'd lose my best friend that i rely on when im depressed.
Or am i thinking too much of this?:conf: |
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| DarkAngel |
Tough situation you have there.
Try calling. If she really cares about you she will come through. Try to stay calm when you do tho. Not sure what else to say except hope it works out for you. |
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| red eyed phil |
| Im afraid of both decisions. this is the second time this has happened and im afraid it'll happen again. But im worried that our relationship will fall apart if i do call. :confused: |
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| DarkAngel |
| quote: | Originally posted by red eyed phil
Im afraid of both decisions. this is the second time this has happened and im afraid it'll happen again. But im worried that our relationship will fall apart if i do call. :confused: |
I ain't the best person in the world when it comes to stuff like this. But I'll try my damndest.
Maybe you could try asking her if you could join her where she is, now? :conf: Be very honest with her, as open as possible as to how you're feeling but at the same time try not to overwhelm her. I don't know if any of this is making sense, but I'm trying. I've been where you are...and I've tried to die...but, it seems I can't. You don't wanna go down that road again. If she for some reason says no, you can't join her, find something to do to pass the time; playa game or watcha movie....anything to get your mind off this until you can speak to her....I wish I knew what else to say.
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| {b.s.e.} |
| quote: | Originally posted by BTG
happy valentines day |
This is a serious thread! :whip: ..er..:haha: |
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| DarkAngel |
| quote: | Originally posted by {b.s.e.}
This is a serious thread! :whip: ..er..:haha: |
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| astroboy |
Sounds like she doesn't like you enough to ALWAYS want to be around you. People that everyone does like that much are rare indeed. Alternatively she just finds you to be "too much", or thinks you have some realy annoying traits. I recommend you "ease off" for a week, don't be so intense, let her call you.
I know a few people who are good guys, and are alright to hang out with... in moderation. When they get the feeling that you're friends with them, though, they'll call you every week and ask what you're doing... then you're forced to make lame excuses.
If it's really bothering you, then call and find out why she feels she needs time away from you... what it is about you that annoys her etc... |
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| GelatinPufF |
First you have to realize that she has a life of her own, and shouldn't be at your beck and call 24/7, nor should she be made to feel responsible for your problems and dragged down along with you because of them. You should be grateful to have such a close friend who has been willing to be there for you, and guilty over the fact you won't allow her to let her hair down when she wants to have some fun. She's not your girlfriend, so why are you being so possessive?
| quote: | | It feels as if i got stabbed in the back and shes not my friend. and right now i feel absolutley horrible. i dont know what to do. |
Let it go. She's proven to you many times before what a great friend she is, while the "jealousy" that you so aptly named as the feeling of being "stabbed in the back" is your issue and one that you have to overcome yourself. Be a friend like she has been to you, and realize that she is allowed to have fun with other people, without so called friends of hers -hint/hint/YOU- making her feel guilty about something she's allowed to do. And that's to have fun with her other friends. |
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| red eyed phil |
| quote: | Originally posted by DarkAngel
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| quote: | Originally posted by GelatinPufF
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| quote: | Originally posted by astroboy
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Thank you for your comments and support. Its been sorted out. And your right Gelatin, I am grateful- extremely grateful to have a friend like her.
I would like a mod to close this thread please, thank you. |
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| DJ Lac |
| quote: | Originally posted by red eyed phil
My best friend called me saying that she was at her grandparents and i know that this is a lie because i have caller id- it said the name of one of HER friends(i just know them). and i know shes partying with a group of her friends, because i've been there before.
She's my best friend and has always been there for me. in the past, id get really depressed and think of killing myself, and id call her up for support/help. We're THAT close. She said that I could ALWAYS count on her and she'd always call me up to see if i wanted to hang out with her. It feels as if i got stabbed in the back and shes not my friend. and right now i feel absolutley horrible. i dont know what to do.
Should I just ignore this, or should i call and explain how i feel?
If i do call, im afraid I'd hurt both of us very badly- i'd lose my best friend that i rely on when im depressed.
Or am i thinking too much of this?:conf: |
Hrmm.. I swear this seems a deja vu to me.. now when did that happen to me hrmmm.. :p :p |
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| wienerschnitzel |
| very good advice was given and i hope things start to look up for you! if you want this thread to disapear, click edit/delete and then check the delete thread box. :p |
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