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Perspective on Love
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| trancepixie17 |
From having an act of writing i came upon the topic of love. The question i ask all of you is; "is loving someone actually love, or an addiction of them?" To be more specific do you really love somone or are you just addicted to them?
**Please post your answers** |
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| Boomer187 |
thats just semantics.
but I don't think love is addiction. You can certainly love things and go without them for periods of time.
they are similar in that in some cases you cannot go without your loved one for a period of time, plus you do suffer withdrawl symptoms, depression and crying. so I can see where your coming from, but I think love is too multi-dimensional to just be an addiction, how ever addictino can be a part of love.
hehe its wierd how I form my answer as I type, I had no idea what I was gonna write. heheahaha. |
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| montie |
when someone is "addicted" to someone they are feeling lust. filling a void in themselves with some desire
most people confuse lust with love |
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| Seric |
| love is something I put endless thought into when I discovered the philosophy of buddhism as the powerful truth to me that it is today. Basucally, buddhism teaches that love is selfless, and altruistic. Passion is a selfish indulgent type of love that is all about yourself and the way that loving or being loved makes you (specifically) feel. I did alot of.. feeling lost, and saddened about feeling like i had to let go of passion in my life, but that was a selfish feeling in itself that quickly passed and left me with an unbreakable force in my life that finally amounted to my desire to stay with my current love for the duration of my life. My best friend, My priority, My soul partner, and lastly, my passion. |
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| UglyDave |
| bah! i've thought too much about this topic! it's too hard to understand, and too hard to explain your thoughts!! |
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| anuneventrade |
Simply because someone is addicted to someone doesn't mean that they are simply in lust. When you are in love with someone it can quite easily become an addiction because you care so much you want to spend as much time as possible with them... which can be categorized as an addiciton. You must be more precise on the standards of what you believe to be an addiction.
I do think that many people just assume they are in love when they have strong feelings for the person right away, and later in life say "Oh, I wasn't really in love". Love is when even after you've been hurt in ways that seem so damaging that you crawl yourself into a hole and you know for a fact that you will never be together again, but you still love them regardless.
Love is something that is played too often, and used for reasons/explanations unnecessarily. Many people do not understand or grasp the true concept of being in love with an individual until you actually fall in love. You cannot explain love, or explain the way you feel when you're in love.
In a way, love and addiction are tied together quite easily.
The question is really unanswereable for simply that reason. |
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| Seric |
| another thing worthy of note is how many other languages, but not english have completely differentiated terminology to create a distinction between a love for material objects, or love as an altrustic caring. In Farsi for example, you wouldn't use the same word for "love" when saying "I love money very much" and saying "I love my mother very much". Even in Latin this is true in many respects. The language of thought and often times culture is subjective and filtered through terminology and speech. |
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| Streakfury |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancepixie17
From having an act of writing... |
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| trancepixie17 |
| Thanks so far for your comments and feelings. Love isn't such a hard topic to come to terms with if you're comfortable with it. |
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| Arbiter |
Due to the entirely subjective nature of love (or any emotion for that matter), I don't think it would be wise to assume that everyone "feels" the same thing when they are experiencing what they interpret to be "love."
Because of this, I would posit that love is more likely to exhibit characteristics that might be considered "an addiction" in individuals who are predisposed to such feelings, e.g. those who have "addictive personalities." However, I certainly don't think that there is any definition of love which can accurately depict the broad spectrum of emotional responses which individuals might characterize as "love."
To answer your specific question:
| quote: | | To be more specific do you really love somone or are you just addicted to them? |
I'm not sure that I would classify these options as mutually exclusive. If someone thinks they are in love, then they are in love insofar as they understand the concept of love. Because of love's inherent subjectivity, one cannot really give a definition of what "love does (or should) feel like." It's really just up to individual interpretation. Ergo, you really do love someone if and only if you believe you do, as each individual is the sole and exclusive arbiter of his or her own subjective feelings.
Best Wishes,
Arbiter |
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| MysticStardust |
| Well I think love is very different from addiction. The main theme of love is to care FOR THE LOVED ONE and have the will to give anything for THEIR well-being and happiness.In contrast, the theme of addiction is to have the thing YOU crave for, no matter what are the costs, not even if the person you're addicted to is hurt in the process, just as long as you have them in the end. Love is generally quite a positive thing, yet such love seems to only exist in romance novels nowdays. An addiction, most of the time, is a bad thing,it is uncontrolable and unpredictable. While a person is addicted to something or someone they seem to loose the sense of oneself and tend to focus mainly on their addiction. When you're addicted to a person basically you are obsessed with them, which again never leads to a good ending. On the other hand love allows you to still be yourself and also be totally devoted to your partner thus allowing for self growth/improvement (which is always a good thing) and allowing your partner to have their personal space and yet still feel loved and cared for. Isn't that the feeling we all crave for? Anyways, in sum I think love is quite the opposite from addiction.:o ;) |
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