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solving problems w/violence (pg. 2)
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| jp |
| quote: | | I'm in cheerleading |
Some of us would like to see some photo or video footage, but they're all afraid to ask... :toothless |
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| Arbiter |
There's a time and a place for everything.
Usually what I do is to try to provoke the other person into attacking me (I find repeatedly calling them a coward works well). That way, whatever I do to them is "just in self-defense." |
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| Slylee |
hand her a business card to a shrink's office next time she runs her mouth, and tell her to work her problems out with him/her, instead of you.
if she keeps it up, then knock her teeth out:toothless |
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| DarkAngel |
| quote: | Originally posted by smallSHEEP
Just stone wall her. Dont speak to her ever - even when she speaks to you. |
If talking to the coach doesn't work, then this should.
Personally, I love violence. :crazy: I mean, FFS look at my sig...but even bashing someone's brains in or capping them doesn't solve everything... |
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| Omegasox |
| quote: | Originally posted by smallSHEEP
Just stone wall her. Dont speak to her ever - even when she speaks to you. |
I agree. Ignore her, she'll get tired of shooting off her mouth if she can't get a rise out of you. |
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| MisterOpus1 |
I find passive sarcasm and patronization works the best. It will either incite more bunched up anger in her which will only make her appear out of control in front of everyone, or it will completely diffuse her, thus taking the anger "wind" out of her sails. Either result is in your benefit. I find my wife does quite well with this skill when confronted with an adversary, esp. another female. Some of my favorite lines after the adversary's outbursts are:
"Are you okay, sweetheart? Really now, tell me what bothers you. Is there something more behind that anger? Perhaps some professional help is best. It's okay to admit you can't handle all problems on your own. It's the first step in the healing process."
"You know that anger is detrimental to your health? Try yoga or Tai Chi, or a good cup of strychnine tea. Anything to quell your ill feelings."
"Gracious, you sure have much to say! Thank you so much for your criticism! I honestly don't know where I'd be without you. Thank you for loving me this much."
**follow that with a gentle kiss on her cheek**
"You see, this is why I love you so much! You have so many positive things to say, AND you know how to make everyone feel oh so much better! Thank you. Thank you so much!
**follow that with a big hug**
Just some food for thought. |
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| Slylee |
hahah exactly.
or some of these might work too...
"i know it probably makes you feel better about yourself to constantly criticize others, but you should try to work out those deep rooted insecurities through counseling, hun...lots of luck with that:D "
"babe, you're gonna give yourself gray hairs worrying so much about little ol' me".
"boy, you sure put a lot of effort in paying so much attention to me...i'm flattered". |
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| swisstoni |
| i know the situation you're in, i wanna knock my housemate out coz she's a mouthy little **** but u just can't do like that |
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| swisstoni |
| quote: | Originally posted by Slylee
says who:p |
hrmm.. :disbelief |
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| torontotrance |
K the following is the expressed opinion of TTA
1)If you are too tired and you are making the team suffer then GET OUT!. I'm one who gets tired of people making excuses, lifeguarding whatever, if you are making the team suffer then either raise the level or get out.
2)Violence solves nothing really and it is my opinion that it only serves to create more problems. You hit her or something, you get kicked off the team, maybe charged, she gets mad, the cycle continues
3)Telling her off I doubt will work, that usually creates more problems as well (funny that I'm saying this init!).
4)Your solution, get the team together and talk about the need for team unity and don't single her out. Just say certain people need to pick up their socks and get moving. I do point out, anytime you do this, make sure you are the example or you will just be a hyprocrite. I played on many teams (cheerleading is not a sport tho) and we usually had one player like this, a total disgrace. In hockey, I'd just single the person out because i played goalie and I was the team leader but that happened once. Usually I tore into the whole team and tore into our play and how pathetic we were. I mean we lost 11-1 one night and I tore into our team for that, I was mad at myself for playing poorly but really one guy made two errors that opened the floorgates. I tore the team apart as well as my own play rather than single him out. We got even and won 11-2 the next time we played them, we beat them 9-5 in the playoffs 5 months later.
5)Ask yourself, is me fighting her or telling her really going to solve matters? |
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| Taz |
You must have friends on the team who agree with you, right? Try subtle organized humiliation. My weapon of choice would be gang laughing. When she starts shooting her mouth off, have friends ready, smile, look to your friends and have everyone laugh at her at once. Then she'll go "What the f&*#!addayaddyaa etc." Laugh even harder! Pretend she's some kind of funny animal. Later she'll pull you aside and ask what the hell. Your only answer should be, "I dunno, you're just funny!"
Mind you it might be a little late in the game to do that sort of thing.
Your coach must know what's going on. What does your coach say? |
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