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Dealing with the end of a relationship
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| mezzir |
I always thought to myself i'd never start a relationship thread, but once again i'm proving myself wrong. Basically, my gf of a bit over 4 months broke up with me monday afternoon, and it came as a bit of a suprise. she stressed over and over that it wasn't me and she just would be hurting me more in the long run, but if anything it made me feel worse cause she didn't even give me anything to blame on myself, and helplessness is the ing worst feeling in the world.
so for anyone who's been in this situation, what the hell am i supposed to do? its not like i can care for her with all the world on day then a few days later just be normal, i haven't slept more than like 4-5 hours and haven't been eating just cause everything seems slightly off w/o her. this sucks.
and as much as i want to do everything in my power to get her back, she specifically said she just needs time to herself and the one thign i don't make exceptions for is respecting honesty and respecting her opinion, so it leaves me with nothing i can do
does this just go away or something or do i need to go get ed up for a night or go flirt with someone else or what, cause this blows |
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| djeternal2004 |
to me shes trying to swerve around the real reason for wanting a break with you and giving you an excuse.
well dude only advice i can give you is :
* dont mope around feeling sorry for yourself
* always try and keep busy by doing things each day and eventually the hurt will slowly disappear. Time will heal it. Just keep positive man :)
Theres nothing much more that you can do but get on with ure life. Take it as an experience and if a situation comes up again like this ull know how to deal with it better. |
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| Omegasox |
| quote: | Originally posted by mezzir
so it leaves me with nothing i can do
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Just have to get over it, dude. Life goes on. |
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| Floorfiller |
seriously...4 months isn't that bad in the scheme of things, but i remember when i was still young and dated a girl for about 3 months then we just broke up all of a sudden. it was a complete shock...well not completely looking back at it i could see the signs, but i didn't want it to be over.
what actually was going on was that she just wasn't really ready for a relationship at that point. she had some bad ones in the past and was just having an emotional time.
i was upset about it until i found someone new...that helped a lot. later on...she admitted to my friend that she had been a real bitch to me and told her what a sweet guy i really was and how dumb she was, but...too late.
as far as seeing other people. just make sure that you don't go and get in a relationship that you don't really want right now because in essence you might be doing the same thing to that person that you are going through, but it does help to have someone else... |
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| mezzir |
thanks for the support people :)
and btw she wasn't trying to get around any real reason, she's been having trouble at home etc and i don't really blame her, its a lotta to deal with at once
life does go on
its just weird changing it unexpectedly |
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| whiskers |
dude, sorry to hear that...
i'd say run a load and play some ultimate, it always seems to cheer me up |
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| mezzir |
| quote: | Originally posted by whiskers
dude, sorry to hear that...
i'd say run a load and play some ultimate, it always seems to cheer me up |
and you'd be right
sucks though, we did stadiums yesterday and probably just cause i haven't slept or eaten much of anything lately i couldn't finish it off, did 4 sets of 5 and could barely keep from throwing up
ultimate in rocks
and btw, we're gonna beat UMass this year
that and win the invitational, i swear we'll do both this season if it kills us
and btw, i'm coming to UMass next year :) |
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| NinetyNinety |
In my opinion, something nice would be to write a poem, paint something, write some music or justa basically do anything involved with arts, since the best inspiration usually comes from sadness, plus, by doing this, you will be letting all your feelings flow.
Just wait, and time will take care of everything, and as Floorfiller said, don't rush and get involved in a relationship just to forget... it'll maybe work, but you can hurt somebody.
Anyway, that's just my two cents.
...Don't worry man, eventually you'll get over it.
;) |
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| whiskers |
| quote: | Originally posted by mezzir
and btw, we're gonna beat UMass this year
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you will cuz i'm not playing :haha:
and the invitational... paideia did lose a bunch of good guys...
you're coming to UMass? SWEET!! i'm currently trying to plan out my schedule so that i can go to fall practices... cuz not being able to play in the spring SUCKS |
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| DigiNut |
| quote: | Originally posted by NinetyNinety
In my opinion, something nice would be to write a poem, paint something, write some music or justa basically do anything involved with arts, since the best inspiration usually comes from sadness, plus, by doing this, you will be letting all your feelings flow. |
Yyyeeeaaaah, I'd say you want to be doing everything you can to *forget* about it. Because that's basically it - forget about her, you don't need her, if she's got problems then let her deal with 'em, they aren't your responsibility.
Don't say another word and don't give her a second thought. Best strategy is to find someone else. I don't suppose she has any hot friends? :toothless |
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| mezzir |
hijacked! cause ultimate is more interesting right now :p
| quote: | Originally posted by whiskers
you will cuz i'm not playing :haha:
and the invitational... paideia did lose a bunch of good guys...
you're coming to UMass? SWEET!! i'm currently trying to plan out my schedule so that i can go to fall practices... cuz not being able to play in the spring SUCKS |
yeah why don't you play in the spring anyways? never quite knew. and maybe now that i'm gonna go to UMass i can finally meet someone from TA that i didn't invite here in the first place
aah man this weekend we went to the Yale cup, got top 8 i think, but we did pretty well in the games we lost. it was dope though, i'm a new player so i don't play much and in one game we were down like 5-1 quick cause she had been playing the subs since it was supposed to be an easy game. so she put the starters back in and they brought it back a bit by half, then a few points into the second half she finally put me in (even though i had played like 2 points all day i didn't make it in the first half before the starters went back in) and i got a lay out D on my man who was cutting to the break side, then after a few passes broke the mark with a backhand for the score
it was dope, i think i made a good impression |
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