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| ratz |
first off this is about drug use so if you get offended dont continue reading... i dont wanna hear preaching about how drugs are bad and yadda yadda...
so i have this friend that ive known for a few years now named j (ill call him that just for name sake). so ive been known to dabble into drugs every now and then but have quit as of recently cause as every 1 whoes done drugs before knows... once you do em by yer self youve reached addict status and its also very depressing being high all alone...
so the thing bout j is that weve recently done some e and meth and k together and had a jolly ol time... and so from there he started doing it more an more and so i would as well... and then it got to the point where i said enough is enough... and it honestly takes me a while to get to this point...
so after i said this j still continued doing them and it got to the point where i honestly think hes become a addict...
this morning he woke me up early all strung out on a all night binge with some other guys and i was like holy e... this isnt the same j i knew before... and all this in a matter of maybe 3 weeks...
should i feel guilty for him becoming a addict... its more then obvious that he has a very addictive personality (which i couldnt of known before hand)
but he also is his own person and is able to make his own decisions... and i made point of never pressuring him at any point and even questioned him at a few points saying are you sure...
he just took it too far...
i dunno... what do yall think |
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| JeN |
You can't blame yourself for that. I lost my best friend to meth a year or so ago b/c we had done it together 1 time.. and then she became an addict.. and I didn't do the drug anymore.
it's sad that it happens to one of your friends.. but it is not your fault..
all you can do is try to help them
but remember you can't help anyone that doesn't want to be helped ;) |
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| Wildfir3 |
Yea u should feel guilty... u can continue making up excuses but ur still the person who got him addicted.
Ur the person who should know how bad it is for people and how dangerous it is to become addicted, and also how terrible it feels. He didn't know, but you did, and you did drugs together with him, always doing more & more, bla...
Really, u should feel terrible |
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| ratz |
| quote: | Originally posted by JeN
You can't blame yourself for that. I lost my best friend to meth a year or so ago b/c we had done it together 1 time.. and then she became an addict.. and I didn't do the drug anymore.
it's sad that it happens to one of your friends.. but it is not your fault..
all you can do is try to help them
but remember you can't help anyone that doesn't want to be helped ;) |
i know what ya meen... and i dont blame myself... i honestly am a good person and go out of my way to be a good person and like every 1 in life i like to have a bit of fun... but i am officially quitting cause i dont wanna be pressure/influance to him
| quote: | Originally posted by Wildfir3
Yea u should feel guilty... u can continue making up excuses but ur still the person who got him addicted.
Really, u should feel terrible |
:D :D :D
i bet youve never really dun drugs for the fun of it have you... |
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| Slylee |
| maybe a little bit...i would feel bad too, but he's a big boy and in charge of his own destiny. have a talk with him...tell him what you just told us... |
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| icedale |
Avoid to blame yourself 'cause it's just going to get you down. What you can do, is try to make him get out of there. With you taking the blame and going down, he won't be having any support and feedback.
Just try to get him out of there.
I have never made use of any drugs, don't even smoke. They're just my thoughts. |
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| svens_bath |
| why should you feel guilty if your friend is a up. drugs can be a load of fun when you take knowing your own limits. evrybodys limits are different, so you could not know beforehand if he was going to become a junkie. we all make our own choices and so must take our own consequences. personally i would blame the meth. extremley addictive drug |
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| nrjizer |
| quote: | Originally posted by Wildfir3
Yea u should feel guilty... u can continue making up excuses but ur still the person who got him addicted.
Ur the person who should know how bad it is for people and how dangerous it is to become addicted, and also how terrible it feels. He didn't know, but you did, and you did drugs together with him, always doing more & more, bla...
Really, u should feel terrible |
I call bull. Assuming both him and his friends were adults, there's no where to put the blame but on his friend. His friend should be able to make his own decision, and obviously he did. When he was offered the drugs he said yes. He kept taking them on his own, until he got to the point he's at now. That was his choice. However irresponsible, you can't blame ratz for another persons decisions.
It's really sad how so many people these days won't take responsibility for themselves, and are so quick to shove the blame off onto someone else. Kids shooting each other in the schools? Why, it couldn't be ty parenting. It must be the violent video games and music. Young girls keep getting knocked up? STD's on the rise? It couldn't possibly be that the parents and schools simply aren't teaching about birth control and safe sex, its obviously that we aren't force feeding them enough abstinence only propaganda. Yadda yadda. It's the same all over (at least in America).
If a friend offered me drugs, I wouldn't do them unless I knew what I was doing and knew not to get addicted. If I didn't and I did it anyways, its my own ing fault for being irresponsible. |
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| Orbax |
| I thought it was about masturbating :( |
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| ratz |
the thing is is that im 23... hes 28... so ya were both adults... and ya ill take the blame for doing them with him... but how was i to know that he would go this far... i honestly did it with him cause i wanted to have a fun time...
and tonight when he comes over me and his other good friend are gonna talk to him... kinda like a intervention i suppose... |
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| ::TranceVanDyk:: |
thats why i dont dabble with that hard addictive . what do u expect from meth. more then 80% of people who become addicted to it, and go to rehab, become second-time users.
stick to E, booze, n mary. safer/nonaddictive is better. |
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| davinox |
you shouldn't feel bad.
it's his own decision, unless you were like "Hey, you're not going to be my friend unless you do this with me." |
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