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Social Phobia (pg. 3)
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| torontotrance |
| nah she belongs to ME!!!!!!!! |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Ill try to keep my charm to a minimum, Babe. Sorry. |
It hasn't been an issue so far. ;) |
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| Orbax |
| quote: | Originally posted by trancebrat
It hasn't been an issue so far. ;) |
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| Tranc3 |
75% of people are extroverts. In a society that loves extroverts and looks down upon introverts, it's easy to see why depression can affect introverted people more easily. Social phobia is a common side-effect of this combination.
When people say you should just put yourself out there and pretend to be the most social person in the world, that's not going to work. Most of the time anyways. If you're a natural introvert, you're going to be pretending to be somebody you're not. You might be able to do it a few times, but it starts to wear on you. Besides which, gradual acclimation to problems tend to suit people better than a sudden immersal.
If you want to overcome it, start off slowly and then work your way up. |
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| trancebrat |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tranc3
75% of people are extroverts. In a society that loves extroverts and looks down upon introverts, it's easy to see why depression can affect introverted people more easily. Social phobia is a common side-effect of this combination.
When people say you should just put yourself out there and pretend to be the most social person in the world, that's not going to work. Most of the time anyways. If you're a natural introvert, you're going to be pretending to be somebody you're not. You might be able to do it a few times, but it starts to wear on you. Besides which, gradual acclimation to problems tend to suit people better than a sudden immersal.
If you want to overcome it, start off slowly and then work your way up. |
I agree...I see your point. |
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| Orbax |
| Also, boring people tend to be introverts. Try doing something interesting enough to talk about, and CounterStrike doenst count, no matter how good you are. |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Tranc3
75% of people are extroverts. In a society that loves extroverts and looks down upon introverts, it's easy to see why depression can affect introverted people more easily. Social phobia is a common side-effect of this combination.
When people say you should just put yourself out there and pretend to be the most social person in the world, that's not going to work. Most of the time anyways. If you're a natural introvert, you're going to be pretending to be somebody you're not. You might be able to do it a few times, but it starts to wear on you. Besides which, gradual acclimation to problems tend to suit people better than a sudden immersal.
If you want to overcome it, start off slowly and then work your way up. |
that's great advice. i should follow some of that. i think having social anxiety comes down to confidence. i have a lot of image issues and that directly affects my interaction with other people. i feel perfectly comfortable around people that know me well, but i suck at one on one. i'm working on it though....someday i'll be a social butterfly hehehe... |
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| Floorfiller |
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
Also, boring people tend to be introverts. Try doing something interesting enough to talk about, and CounterStrike doenst count, no matter how good you are. |
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that is true too...if you are a busy person...you are interesting and always have stuff to talk about with people...its a lot easier than say...i did nothing today |
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| Orbax |
yep...eventually people stop talking to you if its "oh same old yah know"
thats depressing! it should be depressing for you too! go learn to walk on your hands or SOMETHING in your spare time. People want progress, not stagnation! |
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| Radagast |
| quote: | Originally posted by Prodigy Child
WOW what makes it interesting is when people know they have this problem, and don't know why or how to get around it, very strange, but hope people with this can overcome it. |
You always know when you have this problem. You may not know what the condition is technically called, but you know you have a problem. |
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| nialsjd |
| quote: | Originally posted by whiskers
sometimes when people are s you exaggerate those moments and keep being depressed, but when people are being nice to you you're like "no, that can't be, they must be trying to trick me, i must be paranoid"
and you perpetuate it... |
true true about the distortions
I Chemistry i love, i love science a lot. However, group projects. Everyone had their "click" (am i cool yet?) and parterned up. Of course, week after week, i was always the one to raise my hand when the teacher said "anyone not have a partner?" I'd walk up to the front of the class and he would say "ok, who wants erick in their group?" No one raised their hand and that was about the turning point when my socialphobia led to physical pain and uneasyness. I would have to go to the bathroom about once or twice a day to vomit. During one of the more severe incidents, i went to the nurse and confessed to her about the fact that i needed help for my socialphobia. she wrote a note and i never gave it to my parents. fear. meds. i would constanly tell myself that "erick, you are not normal"
II As time progressed, i lost my friends one by one as i wasn't the "normal" person i was back in 7th grade, smiles and jokes all day. Whenever i was with them, i was quiet and looking at the floor. So they all get with other groups and that led to the last 3 years of my high school being alone. Once again, Erick, You are not normal.
III Of course, when someone has a lot of time in their hands, no friends, no phone and all the sort, that's when the toughts come. Erick, you have no friend. Erick, you will never have a girlfriend. Erick, you are a defect.
I'd gone to see pyschiartists finally after 4 years. I gave them my story, of course, having to excuse myself several times to go to the bathroom. They put me on Prozac. I felt OK. Suicide Attempt #1 a week after.
Sent me to a treatment center. Suicide Attempt #2 after 3 months in the center. I'd gotten the hint that i was not very good at suicide, so i just kept letting the counselors and psychs do tests and i'd have to do tasks to earn "points". Changed to Paxil.
It may have been the paxil that changed me. But i knew that pills wouldn't open my mouth, so i did. I said hello every morning to the people at my table. However, after "hi", i blanked out and that was it. few weeks later "hi, how are u" and they would tell me about their weekend or stuff like that. Of course, i had a short answer in response as "i did nothing."
Every week i aimed to do better. The paxil was taking care of my anxiety and I started taking care of my socialphobia. I was in the treatment center for 9 months, off to college, 4.0 gpa, associates degree in computer science and boy, i have too many friends to count with a calculator.
YES, it is unimaginable the pain i had to go through. As i said, it may have been the paxil, but i realized that the only way i could communicate with people was, well, to communicate with people. |
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| Orbax |
Paxil is the most ed up drug ever. I lost three friends to it.
i was/am a total loser so I went on a self improvement bingw junior year in highschool. I dont have any friends, still a loser, but i feel better about myself hehe. I had my fun times with Celexa and anti depressants, but didnt think that ing my brain with drugs would bring out the "real me". Needless to say years of introspection and many odd things happening have led to an uneasy sort of acceptance of myself. |
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